Hi all...

Well the searching has started to find my dress for the big day - which is fast approaching!!

Need your help on deciding on a style. I want something a little different - and nothing plain! I love lace, i love detail, so let me know what you think on the below dresses.

I will be getting my dress made so will probably incorporate bits of the different dresses but i cant decide on what!

http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i242/timtamss/Wedding/knsungs076697l.jpg
http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i242/timtamss/Wedding/knspucs060039l.jpg
http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i242/timtamss/Wedding/knallrs078417l.jpg
http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i242/timtamss/Wedding/knanjos070914l.jpg

Oh Timtam, they are all so absolutely stunning that I don't know which to chose. So I am no help whatsoever! Is there a particular one there that you are leaning towards?

no...thats the problem! haha they are all slightly different but i love them all

1. love the 'softness' of this dress
2. love the style of the skirt - something different as i dont want a plain boring skirt
3. love the gathered effect on the skirt and the lace coming through, and the ribbon detail on the bodice
4. like 3. love the gathering and the lace coming through

Okay, I've studied them again, and I really think that the third one is the "show stopper". Like I said, they are all stunning, but this one has something else as well (plus its a bit sexy!). What do you think?

Yeah i like this one too - it has a bit of everything i love, but im just biased so its good to get some opinions! thank you beauty*product*junkie

No probs! I'm so excited for you ... I remember how exciting it was when I finally got my wedding dress IN MY HANDS!!!! It was scheduled to be finished two days before the wedding, and I was super duper stressed about it, so don't do that, not a good idea at all!!

haha im just stressed about making a decision! i'm so indecisive and having to make a decision so far out before the day is freaking me out because i tend to change what i like / dislike so frequently!

what do you think of number 3, but with the soft fabric (ie an organza fabric) of number 1 for the gathered bit on the left?

Hey Tim Tam, what's your body shape? I know we don't know each other that well but just thought I'd ask! Might help determine the style as much as the detail...?

From the four pics I like the first one and also the "peek through" effect of the lace on the third; I think too much detail can sometimes overwhelm the dress and you want people to be looking at you as much as what you're wearing (you wear the dress, it doesn't wear you, if you know what I mean?). It's so personal and I know you like detail, and it's great that you're getting someone to make it because it means you can take elements of one dress and put them with another.

Keep us posted though, I love weddings and the dress is the best bit!!

Hi raspberryberet, im more of an hourglass figure. Im a size 12 so im not huge, but a slim line dress would not suit me which is why im going fuller (and i love the ball gown wedding dress!). I have a big bust also so i will be going for a sweetheart bodice line (thats the only thing i know for sure!)

Take your comments on me wearing the dress and not vice versa - very true!

I'm hoping to go and visit the lady that will be making my dress next week and i will give her the pics and see what she says also.

Thanks! :)

(keep the comments coming!)

Oh wow! I vote for door number 2 and 3!

You lucky girl they are all so stunning.

looks like number 3 is winning :)

thanks jaime!

what do you think of number 3, but with the soft fabric (ie an organza fabric) of number 1 for the gathered bit on the left?

Yup, I can see that working nicely!

Hi raspberryberet, im more of an hourglass figure. Im a size 12 so im not huge, but a slim line dress would not suit me which is why im going fuller (and i love the ball gown wedding dress!). I have a big bust also so i will be going for a sweetheart bodice line (thats the only thing i know for sure!)

Take your comments on me wearing the dress and not vice versa - very true!

I'm hoping to go and visit the lady that will be making my dress next week and i will give her the pics and see what she says also.

Thanks! :)

(keep the comments coming!)

Oh, wow, you lucky girl, then all four would look beautiful on you. Sigh.

Thanks raspberryberet. Im hoping the style of the dress will suck all the bad bits in hehe

ok, for what a single 23 year old opinion is worth... here it is:

1. love the intricate bodice, and especially how the top is straight (not sweetheart neck line) The skirt fabric also looks amazingly soft! very classy and pretty at the same time.
2. Adore the colour!! Not sure I like the low hipline gathering. I think this shortens peoples legs and lengthens the torso.. in a weird way
3.Think there is a little bit too much going on with this dress. It's hard to focus and appreciate it.
4. Love the glimpse of lacy organza showing from the bottom and side!

Hrmm.. overall.. I'd have to go for number 1...

Im with Sarah. Number 1.

I like number 2

I think it really depends on your body shape/colouring. I think number 3 would swamp a size 6/8 but would look great on a person with more curves and fleshier shoulders.

1 and 4 looking smashing on the models with tanned skin so it's hard to imagine how they'd look on paler skin.

My fav is number 2. Looks like something a Spanish dancer might wear :hearts:

Your dress should suit the theme of your wedding which is partially why I love number 2 so much, it calls up images of wild dancing and joy.

No 2.

I think that is based on it not being white & being the most modern of the 4. Sorry but I'm really not a fan of the big white wedding dress, they all look the same to me.
I love that coffee colour & the drop diagonal hip line. I like the detail on the gather too.

Have you had a chat with the dressmaker yet? They could advise you on what style would suit your body type. The type of fabric you pick will also affect the drape of the dress so ask their opinion on that too.

Thanks ladies...looks like its pretty split now!

Havent spoken to the dressmaker yet - i was hoping to go with one or two pics rather than a million that i seem to be gathering because each dress has something about it that i like / dislike.

Love everyone's opinions, much appreciated.

I like number 3, bu only because I am not a fan of the white puffy, lacy dresses - they remind me of my grandmothers toilet doll dresses....(not your dresses, just in general). I love the latte colour of number 3, and the draping wasteline - it's just that bit different and eye-catching to me.

Good luck though, wedding dresses are sooo personal and you, the bride, have to love it!! (since you will have these photos to remind you for the rest of your life).

I like the simple, elegant ones so out of those you've listed my top picks are 1 and 4 - they look classy and stylish.

But in saying that they are all gorgeous and am sure your dressmaker would be able to take elements from each that you like to create something perfectly suited to you.

I know my friend did something like this - she tried all the different styles on and then took photos/pics of the styles she liked to the dressmaker and had them all blended into her perfect dress! She looked amazing! :glee:

Good luck - can't wait to see the finished product!

hi,
I personally would go for the second one, followed by the third one as second choice. i personally dont like white dresses.i prefer colours to white

I love number 4. I love the lace etc. Number one is also gorgeous.

I am in a wedding later this year and the bride is luck enough to have Alex Perry making her dress.

I guess it is quite difficult choosing the perfect dress because there are just so many options. My friend simply walked into Alex Perry on her first meeting and he said to her "i know exactly what will work for you" he drew up a sketch and she loved it. If only it was that easy for everyone.

Is it rude of me to think spending $25,000 dollars on a wedding dress is just stupid! I would want the entire wedding and the honeymoon to cost that if it were me!

Is it rude of me to think spending $25,000 dollars on a wedding dress is just stupid! I would want the entire wedding and the honeymoon to cost that if it were me!

Wow, can't believe AP is making your friend's dress! Sigh.

But no, I don't think it's rude of you - it's so much money, even if it is the wedding dress you've always dreamt of. It's seriously unlikely you're ever going to wear it again.

I read somewhere that the average Australian wedding costs between $35,000 & $40,000 now. That shocks me. It's almost a house deposit! I know it's a special day and different for everyone depending on location, number of guests, theme etc..just seems like a lot of dosh to me...

What do others think/what experiences have others had on the money side of things?

What do others think/what experiences have others had on the money side of things?
My parents got married on a Monday night at a shmancy restaurant. They wore the clothes they had worn to work that day and just had a few good friends join them. They didn't even buy engagement rings (my Dad is a farmer and they decided to buy a heifer instead - lol).
While I don't think I'll do something like that for my wedding, I'm definitely not going to spend $40,000. Big celebrations like that make me anxious and uncomfortable (if they're my own - e.g. year 12 formal) and I imagine it would be difficult financially as a newly-wed couple, so I would definitely want to put my money toward more important things (buying a house).

Holy moly! $25,000 on a dress?? My whole wedding (one day!) will be a budget for about $20,000.

That's unbelievable. Some people have more money then they know what to do with!

$25K on a dress is crazy! You only wear it once and there goes $25K! My goodness!

That is an insane amount of money to spend on a dress, Alex Perry or not. Wedding are such exy things no matter what u do. We tried to keep the expense small at ours as we paid for it ourselves & I think we did a pretty good job. It still cost a bit.

I junted for a white gold wedding ring all year & finally found a silver one I liked 2 weeks before the wedding, it cost $12!

Hello there ladies,

Well, i've been thinking of my dress and even though i was wanting to design something based on the dresses posted above, i cant stop thinking about the very first dress i tried on shown here: http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i242/timtamss/Wedding/Pronovias-Olga.jpg

What do you think of this one? I wouldnt be able to change anything about it as it comes from Spain as is. I really do like it though...a little different

Very pretty TT, and a bit sexy too! Would be lovely with your hair up with flowers and a lace/embroidered mantilla over the shoulders (in case it got cold), in keeping with the spanish theme!

i will most probably have something over my shoulders - mainly because of the formality of the ceremony (shouldnt have my shoulders exposed) and it will prob be lacy so i was thinking if i had too much lace on my dress (like the original posted ones) then it might be too much??

also want one of those veils with lace trim so i wouldnt want it to be lace overload :p

Hmmmmmmmmm........see what you mean, yes, it could possibly be lace overload! But might be hard to tell until you get the dress...you could get something in a quite sheer material - like silk - perhaps with lace edging or inserts, so it's not too full-on? You could get something made after you get the dress perhaps...make sure you keep us posted, just loving the wedding threads!

Have you thought about the bridesmaids dresses?

Yeah i will be going to try the dress on again soon raspberryberet and i will ask the dressmaker her opinion too!

Bridesmaids dresses, yes, my next drama :D All i have thought about is the colour - probably a goldy/champage colour and i want something very flowy and feminine. Havent seen anything around i like - everything is too bridesmaid-y

Tim tam, as soon as I read about your bridesmaids dress colour option, I thought about a very flattering style like the one made famous by Donna Karan, really simple and elegant. Will see if I can locate a pic for you. My sister in law got married in Collette Dinnigan but her style was to die for, very grecian with a founcy halter style with a tie around neck. Both of these were made from a satin material. Again, will see if I can find any pics. Good luck!

Thank you so much Luisa!

I have an image of what i want the dresses to look like in my head so its just a matter of getting out!

My parents got married on a Monday night at a shmancy restaurant. They wore the clothes they had worn to work that day and just had a few good friends join them. They didn't even buy engagement rings (my Dad is a farmer and they decided to buy a heifer instead - lol).
While I don't think I'll do something like that for my wedding, I'm definitely not going to spend $40,000. Big celebrations like that make me anxious and uncomfortable (if they're my own - e.g. year 12 formal) and I imagine it would be difficult financially as a newly-wed couple, so I would definitely want to put my money toward more important things (buying a house).

I love the idea of getting married and having an intimate dinner on a weeknight. It can still be lovely but it doesn't have to be a big to-do. Having said that, I looooove a good wedding - I'm addicted to wedding shows like Bridezillas - but for myself, I think, I'd either go the Vegas route or the weeknight route. It doesn't mean it can't be beautiful, elegant and memorable - in fact I think it might be a nice change from the cookie-cutter weddings! Toastie are your parents still married?

Hello there ladies,

Well, i've been thinking of my dress and even though i was wanting to design something based on the dresses posted above, i cant stop thinking about the very first dress i tried on shown here: http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i242/timtamss/Wedding/Pronovias-Olga.jpg

What do you think of this one? I wouldnt be able to change anything about it as it comes from Spain as is. I really do like it though...a little different

Tim Tam, that is one of the most magnificent dresses I've ever seen.

Toastie are your parents still married?
Yes! The funny thing is that this is my mum's third marriage. The other two both had the standard wedding ceremony and lasted 3 only years each!

Tim Tam I think that whatever you decide on for your wedding dress you will make a very beautiful bride.

Yes! The funny thing is that this is my mum's third marriage. The other two both had the standard wedding ceremony and lasted 3 only years each!

Toastie I raise your mum's multiple marriage with three marriages each for both my mum AND my dad...so that's five in total. I was bridesmaid at three of them. Too funny. Needless to say I'm not rushing down the aisle myself (but I do think it's a beautiful thing for other people and do love a good wedding! Just maybe not for my parents....again.... :)

Toastie I raise your mum's multiple marriage with three marriages each for both my mum AND my dad...so that's five in total. I was bridesmaid at three of them. Too funny. Needless to say I'm not rushing down the aisle myself (but I do think it's a beautiful thing for other people and do love a good wedding! Just maybe not for my parents....again.... :)

RBB my Dad is my stepmother's FIFTH, anyone care to beat that?

Hello there ladies,

Well, i've been thinking of my dress and even though i was wanting to design something based on the dresses posted above, i cant stop thinking about the very first dress i tried on shown here: http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i242/timtamss/Wedding/Pronovias-Olga.jpg

What do you think of this one? I wouldnt be able to change anything about it as it comes from Spain as is. I really do like it though...a little different

I think this is beautiful....:hearts: Absolutely gorgeous!!! Go with it girl!
oh, and I guess it's handy to have something around your shoulders, but I dont know a bride who isn't so nervous or high on anticipation that they have actually been cold!! I would no doubt be in a cold sweat ALL day,but thats another story......:o

Hi tim tam,

How exciting! My personal choice is the first one- there is a classic beauty to it that will never date.

Having said that, I have a question for you- if you clear your mind for a moment and let the images of all these dresses come naturally to you, is there one that automatically floats to the surface before the others? You're best bet is to stop thinking so much and let instinct come to the fore. Then you will have your perfect dress!

The other advice I have is to think to yourself, if you really love them all then you cannot go wrong whichever one you choose- so there will be no wrong decision and you are guaranteed to look amazing.

I only know this because I recently bought my wedding dress. I tried on about 5 or 6 and honestly, they all looked stunning which sounds great but I was so confused because the styles were quite different! In the end I thought to myself, which one is really me and then ?I knew- a slim, silk collette dinnigan gown. I am in love! it is sort of 1930s style, sort of Art Nouveau, sort of grecian goddess. The colour is 'seashell' which is like a warm champage colour. It is the same design as the pink one in the link below but the colour is different obviously. It fits like glove and has a small train. I am thinking of getting a long, cathedral style veil with art nouveau detailing to go with it. Although the thought of wearing a veil sort of freaks me out...

http://www.collettedinnigan.com.au/
Go to 'collections' then 'bridal collection'.

Good luck tim tam- please let me know how you go xo

Hello there ladies,

Well, i've been thinking of my dress and even though i was wanting to design something based on the dresses posted above, i cant stop thinking about the very first dress i tried on shown here: http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i242/timtamss/Wedding/Pronovias-Olga.jpg

What do you think of this one? I wouldnt be able to change anything about it as it comes from Spain as is. I really do like it though...a little different

Just stunning TimTam. Would you really want to change anything on this one?

Hi tim tam,

How exciting! My personal choice is the first one- there is a classic beauty to it that will never date.

Having said that, I have a question for you- if you clear your mind for a moment and let the images of all these dresses come naturally to you, is there one that automatically floats to the surface before the others? You're best bet is to stop thinking so much and let instinct come to the fore. Then you will have your perfect dress!

The other advice I have is to think to yourself, if you really love them all then you cannot go wrong whichever one you choose- so there will be no wrong decision and you are guaranteed to look amazing.

I only know this because I recently bought my wedding dress. I tried on about 5 or 6 and honestly, they all looked stunning which sounds great but I was so confused because the styles were quite different! In the end I thought to myself, which one is really me and then ?I knew- a slim, silk collette dinnigan gown. I am in love! it is sort of 1930s style, sort of Art Nouveau, sort of grecian goddess. The colour is 'seashell' which is like a warm champage colour. It is the same design as the pink one in the link below but the colour is different obviously. It fits like glove and has a small train. I am thinking of getting a long, cathedral style veil with art nouveau detailing to go with it. Although the thought of wearing a veil sort of freaks me out...

http://www.collettedinnigan.com.au/
Go to 'collections' then 'bridal collection'.

Good luck tim tam- please let me know how you go xo

Sapphire that is the most massively gorgeous dress!!! I loooooove it. I think a cathedral-length art nouveau veil would be divine. I love huge long veils with non-poofy dresses. I think you've made an amazing choice!

Sapphire - that is some great advice! I will take this weekend to clear my mind from all these dresses and see where my mind drifts...Congratulations on getting your dress!

BPJ - the only thing i would want to change is try and make the bodice a sweetheart shape instead of straight - only because im big busted and this creates the illusion of a smaller bust. Other than that i love this dress and cant stop thinking about it.

Thank you to all for your comments - it really does help!

Sapphire that CD dress is gorgeous...will look beautiful in seashell/champagne colour!

Sapphire,
The dress is gorgeous. I love Colette Dinnigan. I was in a wedding a few years ago and as one of 6 bridesmaids we wore Colette Dinnigan Dresses (oh if only I could still fit into it lol:redcheeks: :chuckle: ).

Sapphire,
The dress is gorgeous. I love Colette Dinnigan. I was in a wedding a few years ago and as one of 6 bridesmaids we wore Colette Dinnigan Dresses (oh if only I could still fit into it lol:redcheeks: :chuckle: ).

Hey, I've been scammed - all my bridesmaids dresses have been scary satin and taffeta! Darnit! Where's my Collette Dinnigan??

Sapphire that is the most massively gorgeous dress!!! I loooooove it. I think a cathedral-length art nouveau veil would be divine. I love huge long veils with non-poofy dresses. I think you've made an amazing choice!

Thank you ozkat :)

I do love it- I have been secretly trying it on at home when future hubby is out. I wear gloves when I try it on so I don't accidentally snag the silk with rough fingernails!

I saw that dress months ago on the website and thought immediately- this is the one. Then when I actually went shopping with my mum we tried on other gorgeous dresses and at the end of the day I saw the CD one in DJs. I also took it as a good omen because when I was trying it on one of my favourite classical pieces of music began playing- Claude Debussy's Clare de Lune. I would love to walk down the aisle to that- so it was a sign!

tim tam the fact that you said you cannot stop thinking of the last dress is a sign too, methinks. Don't worry about the neckline- I think loveheart necklines actually draw attention to a smaller bust. I am so excited for you!

Hi tim tam

Any less confusion regarding your dream dress? x

Hey, I've been scammed - all my bridesmaids dresses have been scary satin and taffeta! Darnit! Where's my Collette Dinnigan??

:chuckle: :chuckle: I would say the same, expect my best friend decided we should ay for our own dresses, which was fair enough...but I would have cried if she had chosen Collette Dinnigan (I would still be paying it off five years later!!!)
:chuckle:

My maids are paying for their own too- as much as I would love to pay for them, 5 dresses would add up to quite a lot!

What do you Adorables think an acceptable price to expect my bridesmaids to pay for their dresses?

I quite expensive tastes so I know if I even think for a second that a certain dress is 'perfect' it usually means it will be one of the most expensive pieces in the room! But my bridesmaids have differing incomes and budgets and only one of them would spend big on clothes normally anyway, so I don't want to make them pay $900 for a CD cocktail dress, but I don't want cheesy taffeta either!

Sapphire, have you actually picked out dresses? Would the cost be better all round if you had them made - like a bulk discount!!:chuckle:

My maids are paying for their own too- as much as I would love to pay for them, 5 dresses would add up to quite a lot!

What do you Adorables think an acceptable price to expect my bridesmaids to pay for their dresses?

I quite expensive tastes so I know if I even think for a second that a certain dress is 'perfect' it usually means it will be one of the most expensive pieces in the room! But my bridesmaids have differing incomes and budgets and only one of them would spend big on clothes normally anyway, so I don't want to make them pay $900 for a CD cocktail dress, but I don't want cheesy taffeta either!

Sapphire when my close pal got married I paid about $150 for the dress, and that was fine with me. It was quite wedding-y so I haven't worn it again...but I would be prepared to pay a bit more for a dress that I could wear a few times. They might feel the same way...?

My maids are paying for their own too- as much as I would love to pay for them, 5 dresses would add up to quite a lot!

What do you Adorables think an acceptable price to expect my bridesmaids to pay for their dresses?

I quite expensive tastes so I know if I even think for a second that a certain dress is 'perfect' it usually means it will be one of the most expensive pieces in the room! But my bridesmaids have differing incomes and budgets and only one of them would spend big on clothes normally anyway, so I don't want to make them pay $900 for a CD cocktail dress, but I don't want cheesy taffeta either!

I think $200 is the maximum I would ever ask someone to pay for a dress that I wanted them to wear. Ideally I'd try to find something as inexpensive as possible because no matter what we say, we rarely wear these things again, and $200 is a crapload of money for people who don't spend up big on clothes. A good solution might be for you to buy the fabric and ask them to have the dress made to a pattern of their choice? That way you'd get the exact colour you wanted and they might be happier about paying for something that's a little more in their style. Or, perhaps you could go halves with the girls if you have your heart set on something particular?

My maids are paying for their own too- as much as I would love to pay for them, 5 dresses would add up to quite a lot!

What do you Adorables think an acceptable price to expect my bridesmaids to pay for their dresses?

I quite expensive tastes so I know if I even think for a second that a certain dress is 'perfect' it usually means it will be one of the most expensive pieces in the room! But my bridesmaids have differing incomes and budgets and only one of them would spend big on clothes normally anyway, so I don't want to make them pay $900 for a CD cocktail dress, but I don't want cheesy taffeta either!


I was a bridesmaid about five years ago, one of four. We were all really close friends from school, we all went shopping for her dress, and all chose the bridesmaid dresses together. WE all chose a two piece dress that cost us $250 each, we just laybyed them. I had no hesitation as I also have expensive taste and I wanted that dress - they just looked beautiful and we ALL looked great on the day.

Besides, I have worn mine three times since and also lent it out to my sisters and their friends!!! CD however would have blown my mind and no such budget for me back then. Now I couldafford it, but would be annoyed (this is probably what I would spend on an actual wedding dress....)

I always think it is nice to have bridemaids dresses made. This way the dresses are made to fit each individual person perfectly. You can pick the exact colour and material that you want. You have someone to rely on for any last minute alterations that may be required and you are making it practically impossible for any other wedding guest to turn up dressed in the same dress as your bridesmaids (i've seen this happen a few times).

As far as price is concerned you really do need to try and keep costs down as much as possible. As often bridemaids are expected to pay for their own dresses, shoes, hair and makeup and then there are always other little incidental costs that pop up. I think you should sit down with your bridemaids and discuss it and set a budget. This way you can see what each person can afford etc.

I always think it is nice to have bridemaids dresses made. This way the dresses are made to fit each individual person perfectly. You can pick the exact colour and material that you want. You have someone to rely on for any last minute alterations that may be required and you are making it practically impossible for any other wedding guest to turn up dressed in the same dress as your bridesmaids (i've seen this happen a few times).

As far as price is concerned you really do need to try and keep costs down as much as possible. As often bridemaids are expected to pay for their own dresses, shoes, hair and makeup and then there are always other little incidental costs that pop up. I think you should sit down with your bridemaids and discuss it and set a budget. This way you can see what each person can afford etc.

i think that was all well said PCC smack on !

I think $200 is the maximum I would ever ask someone to pay for a dress that I wanted them to wear. Ideally I'd try to find something as inexpensive as possible because no matter what we say, we rarely wear these things again, and $200 is a crapload of money for people who don't spend up big on clothes. A good solution might be for you to buy the fabric and ask them to have the dress made to a pattern of their choice? That way you'd get the exact colour you wanted and they might be happier about paying for something that's a little more in their style. Or, perhaps you could go halves with the girls if you have your heart set on something particular?

This is a great idea- this means they will be unified in fabric if I buy it for them. I am also living interstate to where I will be married, and all the maids live in Victoria, so it will have been hard for us to converse extensively about it...

Also, their styles are quite different naturally so if I give them the fabric, plus a theme (ie 1930s or art nouveau evening cocktail) then they will still look individual yet cohesive. Thank you!

Sapphire, I have seen some gorgeous bridal parties that have had the same fabric and just a variation on the theme. Particulaly good for different body shapes as well. Just be clear on the theme and have everyone on the same wavelength!

Hello there ladies,

Well, i've been thinking of my dress and even though i was wanting to design something based on the dresses posted above, i cant stop thinking about the very first dress i tried on shown here: http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i242/timtamss/Wedding/Pronovias-Olga.jpg

What do you think of this one? I wouldnt be able to change anything about it as it comes from Spain as is. I really do like it though...a little different


Tim Tam that dress is just gorgeous. I love the lifted layers and that detail on the skirt. I think it incorporates alot of the elements that you liked about the initial 4. I love the sweetheart bust line idea too. Just gorgeous.

I adore the colour (and the dress) of the CD dress with the key hole front. That oyster champagne colour. Devine :clapping: :hearts:

Tim tam I was wondering if you could tell me where you found all those beautiful dresses you posted:worship: :worship: :worship: . I just adore the last one you posted. Where can I find these??!

As far as price is concerned you really do need to try and keep costs down as much as possible. As often bridemaids are expected to pay for their own dresses, shoes, hair and makeup and then there are always other little incidental costs that pop up. I think you should sit down with your bridemaids and discuss it and set a budget. This way you can see what each person can afford etc.
I think that is important. Of all the weddings I have been part of I have never been given an outlay of costs, they just keep adding up. At one my whole family was involved. So I had to pay for outfits, accessories, hair, make up, shoes etc for 4 of us. My husband was MC, me MOH & my daughters, flowergirls. Our 3 dresses had to be made by a dressmaker. Add to that travel & accomodation as it was an out of town wedding. It was a costly excercise.

I think that is important. Of all the weddings I have been part of I have never been given an outlay of costs, they just keep adding up. At one my whole family was involved. So I had to pay for outfits, accessories, hair, make up, shoes etc for 4 of us. My husband was MC, me MOH & my daughters, flowergirls. Our 3 dresses had to be made by a dressmaker. Add to that travel & accomodation as it was an out of town wedding. It was a costly excercise.

wow that would have been alot of money , i think it is a good idea to talk about it
i had a friend that was going through financial problems [she was a bridesmaid for a friend of hers] & the dress cost kept escalating & she told them but they basically said bad luck :flames: , geez i think i would have pulled out & dumped them with the cost , after been treated so badly. the dress was about $400 & this was 13 yrs ago :shockedhair: & the dress was ugly back then . Picture this , dusty pink water wave taffeta , drop waist , puffy sleeves :shockedhair: :vomit:

I think that is important. Of all the weddings I have been part of I have never been given an outlay of costs, they just keep adding up. At one my whole family was involved. So I had to pay for outfits, accessories, hair, make up, shoes etc for 4 of us. My husband was MC, me MOH & my daughters, flowergirls. Our 3 dresses had to be made by a dressmaker. Add to that travel & accomodation as it was an out of town wedding. It was a costly excercise.

I am going through that at the moment - I am MOH for my best friend whose wedding is on the Sunny Coast, and my whole family is attending. I've paid for my whole outfit but she's beautiful and has offered to pay for my airfare down there, which I thought was really lovely. We still have to pay accommodation and stuff, but that's ok I guess. You're right though, the costs do add up really easily with a wedding.

Half of me thinks that the bridal party shouldn't have to pay anything (it shouldn't cost you hundreds to be in someone else's wedding) but then the other half thinks you should pay for all your stuff (that way you get more say in your dress, and you probably would have bought a new dress anyway, and it's an honour to be asked, blah blah).

Really, who wears their dress again though? :chuckle:

Saw in the Sunday Herald Sun that Marianna Hardwick is having a clearance - not sure of location, but you could use this as an idea gathering expedition.

Saw in the Sunday Herald Sun that Marianna Hardwick is having a clearance - not sure of location, but you could use this as an idea gathering expedition.

I love MH - If I still lived in Melbourne I would have bought one of her divine creations for my upcoming wedding without a doubt!

Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god....this could be it...what do you guys think???? It's very me! Though would probably remove the flower and add a broach instead.

Should I bid, should I bid????? So early for this but.....:penguin:

RBB if you haven't bid yet - NOW!!!

But can you still wear the fluro parachute suit afterwards?

OMG!! It's perfect - what are you waiting for?? :penguin:

Awww I wanna get married and wear a dress. But I don't :chuckle:

Awww I wanna get married and wear a dress. But I don't :chuckle:

Same!! give me the dress, flowers and party. But thats it

Yeah I am not ready to be married - but I know I want to marry the boy. Go figure. I wonder if we got married at work we would finally tell everyone :chuckle:

Yeah I am not ready to be married - but I know I want to marry the boy. Go figure. I wonder if we got married at work we would finally tell everyone :chuckle:

I feel the same. Its normal. I have SOOO Much stuff to do, Before I get married. I am waaaaay too immature. And I dont think I could handle the joint finances. haha

Does NOONE know?!

I feel the same. Its normal. I have SOOO Much stuff to do, Before I get married. I am waaaaay too immature. And I dont think I could handle the joint finances. haha

Does NOONE know?!

KP I knew! I never imagined myself married and there you go, I'm looking at dresses. Does still feel like an out of body experience though!

Also with you on the no joint finances - I much prefer to keep this separate. Have had it drummed into me by my dad!

Well RBB, did you bid????:whipcrack:

Yep! Snap. You have been with him for quite a while yes? You must get that annoying question all the time "When's he going to pop the question?"

Not no one - there are some people that know - one of his best mates works there knows, and another chick he is good friends with knows, and a few of my friends know. BUt that's it. Oh - and the boy decided to tell our big boss one day which freaked me out - it made it seem so set in concrete and took me totally by surprise. One of the managers he works with suspects and tries to catch me out but I think she has given up.

There used to be HEAPS of rumours about us and we were in different states, go figure.

My flatemate was saying last night actually (he works with us) that he is surprised no one says anything about how much time we spend together and him sitting on my desk talking for half an hour and all these othr things, because he thinks we are becoming more obvious and comfortable and touchy.

Maybe the people we work with are are just really dumb :chuckle:
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Yep! Snap. You have been with him for quite a while yes? You must get that annoying question all the time "When's he going to pop the question?"

Not no one - there are some people that know - one of his best mates works there knows, and another chick he is good friends with knows, and a few of my friends know. BUt that's it. Oh - and the boy decided to tell our big boss one day which freaked me out - it made it seem so set in concrete and took me totally by surprise. One of the managers he works with suspects and tries to catch me out but I think she has given up.

There used to be HEAPS of rumours about us and we were in different states, go figure.

My flatemate was saying last night actually (he works with us) that he is surprised no one says anything about how much time we spend together and him sitting on my desk talking for half an hour and all these othr things, because he thinks we are becoming more obvious and comfortable and touchy.

Maybe the people we work with are are just really dumb :chuckle:
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Yeah I get it constantly. We have been together for 7 years. I have gotten quite teary and angry before when its constant pressure from both our families. Its like we are failing them by not getting married. I think they forget that I am still so young, and still have so much to do. I think at the end of the day they really want grandkids, which is fair enough, but jesus, pressuring us is not going to make that happen any quicker.

That would be hard. I dont think I would be able to do that loola. Is it because it will be frowned upon in the office?? There are so many rumours about couples in my office, but I doubt half of them are true.

KP I knew! I never imagined myself married and there you go, I'm looking at dresses. Does still feel like an out of body experience though!

Also with you on the no joint finances - I much prefer to keep this separate. Have had it drummed into me by my dad!

Ditto joint finances. Not that I am super sensible or anything, I just think it would be such a hard transition, and you know, you just NEVER KNOW. that was so unromantic.

Did you bid on your dress hun? It is so stunning.

Ditto joint finances. Not that I am super sensible or anything, I just think it would be such a hard transition, and you know, you just NEVER KNOW. that was so unromantic.

Yeah but reality tends to stomp romance into the ground at times, unfortunately. But this is the wedding dress thread, so RBB - did you bid?

Did you bid on your dress hun? It is so stunning.

Bid finger is poised, just emailing my bestie....

But this is the wedding dress thread, so RBB - did you bid?

See above! I feel all weird and excited, isn't that funny!

Yeah - they have good intentions even though you want to scream "WE WILL WHEN WE'RE DAMN WELL READY!!!"

I plan to keep my own bank account too! I like it that way. I trust him - he trusts me - god, I know all his passwords and bank account numbers - and he told me his Facebook one on Saturday which was REALLY weird.

You know what offices are like - gossip gossip gossip - we just don't feel a need to broadcast it. There are a handful of peoole that know, and all his friends and my friends out of work know. Should things continue as I hope, there will no doubt be a point where it woul dbe revealed - I can already see the gobsmacked faces.

Sometimes I would like people to know - but it's normally when the girls in his teams are doing things and I'd love to just shut them down, or like when he gave me a Christmas present and I just want to hug and kiss him, but other than that, it's kinda exciting people not knowing hehe.

RBB did you get it? You will be the belle of the ball in Vegas :chuckle:

Eeeeeeeeee - this is so exciting!

Bid finger is poised, just emailing my bestie....



See above! I feel all weird and excited, isn't that funny!

Funny but nice :hugs:

Its one of those things you do once. Only one wedding dress!!!!!

KP let's go be like Muriel and try them on even though we're not getting married.

KP let's go be like Muriel and try them on even though we're not getting married.

OMG I did this in Melbourne last year with an engaged friend. it is SO MUCH FUN!!!!!

OMG I did this in Melbourne last year with an engaged friend. it is SO MUCH FUN!!!!!

Hehe so we know what we're doing when you next come down to Melbourne!

Hehe so we know what we're doing when you next come down to Melbourne!

True!! I went to, I think it was called abbey bridal??? They have one in Sydney too. I stood up on the blocks and everything. Hehe. Suckers!!

RBB, this beautiful vintage wedding dress deserves to have you in it on your wedding day! :hearts:

RBB, this beautiful vintage wedding dress deserves to have you in it on your wedding day! :hearts:

with a fluro parachute suit underneath...

with a fluro parachute suit underneath...

Am I missing something?

Loola thinks RBB should wear a flouro parachute suit to get married in. Not sure exactly why though............

By Parachute suit do you mean MC Hammer pants? Or have I completely missed the boat

RBB that dress is DIVINE and you should definitely bid!! What length is it?? Are you still thinking of doing what you were thinking of doing before, RE the wedding location? If yes, that would be sooooo cute in a tea-length.

Because it's COOL. Especially if they are matching.

Not just pants KP - A WHOLE SUIT.

Because it's COOL. Especially if they are matching.

Not just pants KP - A WHOLE SUIT.

When i get married you can be my stylist. Hot.

Dude - if you can afford me. My ideas are in HIGH demand.

RBB what is this location??? I need to know the addy for when I crash it, makes it easier.

RBB that dress is DIVINE and you should definitely bid!! What length is it?? Are you still thinking of doing what you were thinking of doing before, RE the wedding location? If yes, that would be sooooo cute in a tea-length.

Thanks Ozzy!

It's too long at the moment so yep, would take it up to tea length. Probably also take off the flower and add some cool accessories. Flower is a bit too girly for me, if that's possible.

Same location! Trip pretty much mapped out. Shaping up to be a corker. The big question now is, do I go for the Blue Hawaiian Elvis or Fat Vegas Elvis?

Loola - Vegas baby, Vegas!!!

Ohh that's my dream wedding spot!

Hmmm - you could do the ever so non tacky Hawaiian theme (yeah ok!) and go with that one - but fat Elvis - classic, timeless, very you.

It's sooooo my dream wedding location too!!!

RBB you could build so many freakin looks around that dress!! I love it! You could go a bit of a glam Dita von Teese look and put a gorgeous vintage brooch on the waistline.

The Elvis decision is a whole other thing altogether!

Oh and I don't know why but that dress is crying out for Christian Louboutins!

RBB, that dress is just soooo perfect for you! I love it!

my god RBB , it is beautiful & how fantastic u found something that is just so u :kissing::waving:
it's not too early at all as once this is out of the way things things will flow
i am so happy for u :hugs: :waving: :champagne: :penguin: :penguin:

Yeah I am not ready to be married - but I know I want to marry the boy. Go figure. I wonder if we got married at work we would finally tell everyone :chuckle:

:chuckle::chuckle: the perfect wedding..at work ;)

Did you bid on that amazing dress, Raspberry? It is so exquisite - and perfectly you my vintage friend.
I bought my dress quite early in the engagement too. Have you set a date yet?

Did you bid on that amazing dress, Raspberry? It is so exquisite - and perfectly you my vintage friend. Have you set a date yet?

Sapphy, you read my mind! I was just looking for this thread to ask the same questions :typing:

Sapphy, you read my mind! I was just looking for this thread to ask the same questions :typing:

Lol - as a newlywed am going to relive my own wedding through raspberry (hope she doesn't mind ;) )

Did you bid on that amazing dress, Raspberry? It is so exquisite - and perfectly you my vintage friend.
I bought my dress quite early in the engagement too. Have you set a date yet?

I did, and I won! Slightly higher than originally planned :redcheeks: but it is divine. And thanks Saph!

We're thinking about mid-August next year; a party here at home, then jet off to the States a week later for actual wedding and a month-long gad-about. Should be fun!

Oh yay!! :glee:I was sooooo hoping you won it - it is the perfect dress for you!!

How excitement, married in Vegas (by Elvis?) and a month long honeymoon. Congratulations again!:hugs:

Yep, Elvis will give me away! :chuckle: Too funny.

And thanks for taking an interest guys, love sharing it with you!

:hugs:I knew you'd get it! WOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! :hugs:

Married in Vegas, so jealous!! What is the plan for the month after that?

RBB that is so awesome!! Have you been to Vegas before?????

What is the plan for the month after that?

It's still taking shape, but kinda looks like this - New York, Boston, Cape Cod, Vermont, Montreal, Hawaii, home. Probably be away for about five weeks in total.

RBB that is so awesome!! Have you been to Vegas before?????

Sure have! We went there as part of a big US trip in 2006. Had a fantastic time! Shameless Americana, I can't get enough!

Sure have! We went there as part of a big US trip in 2006. Had a fantastic time! Shameless Americana, I can't get enough!

I am the same. People pay me out for how much I love it. Some of the countryside is amazing though. You have a totally different view of America when you visit it.

And which Elvis, Hawaii or Vegas?

And which Elvis, Hawaii or Vegas?

I think probably Fat Vegas Elvis. Seems fitting, no?

It's still taking shape, but kinda looks like this - New York, Boston, Cape Cod, Vermont, Montreal, Hawaii, home. Probably be away for about five weeks in total.

Sounds amazing! I am so happy for you :hugs:

Lol, fer sure RBB, fer sure :chuckle:

OMG RBB, it's just too exciting!!!! I keep poking my boyfriend and saying 'she's getting married in Vegas... VEGAS!!!'

I just showed hubby your dress, and even Mr 'It's just a dress/shirt/whatever liked it! Although he agrees that the flower is not right at all.

I just showed hubby your dress, and even Mr 'It's just a dress/shirt/whatever liked it! Although he agrees that the flower is not right at all.

:chuckle: Thanks Rosie. He is clearly a man of good taste!

Well, we already knew that RBB, he married me didn't he :chuckle::chuckle::chuckle:

I did, and I won! Slightly higher than originally planned :redcheeks: but it is divine. And thanks Saph!

We're thinking about mid-August next year; a party here at home, then jet off to the States a week later for actual wedding and a month-long gad-about. Should be fun!

OMG OMG OMG , i was also going to go searching for this tread today but never got a chance

YIPEEEEEEEE :penguin: :glee: :penguin: :glee: :penguin:

MAJOR excitement RBB , am so happy u got the dress , silly how much u can spend on it , but it was made for u my chickadee , so worth every cent
& your trip , YAY - totally jealous rbb , what a fabulous trip u have going :worship: :whipcrack:

:hugs: :kissing:

Veee lets get married so we can wear pretty dresses that are white.

Veee lets get married so we can wear pretty dresses that are white.

Hahahahahhaahhahahahahahhahahahahahha. I just got in trouble when my boy read that!

Hahahahahhaahhahahahahahhahahahahahha. I just got in trouble when my boy read that!

V that might put some ideas into his head!!

Hahahahahhaahhahahahahahhahahahahahha. I just got in trouble when my boy read that!

Ooops! I mean - when you wear that to MY wedding. Yes. That's it. White theme.

My boy doesn't even know aboutthis forum!

V that might put some ideas into his head!!

SHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhh :whistle:

Ooops! I mean - when you wear that to MY wedding. Yes. That's it. White theme.

My boy doesn't even know aboutthis forum!

Haha, no it's playful mad, not real mad.

Ooops! I mean - when you wear that to MY wedding. Yes. That's it. White theme.

My boy doesn't even know aboutthis forum!

keep it that way. Mine SNOOPS!!!

I try to! I feel a bit bad sometimes as he occasionally chats on the Contiki forum and will ring me up to read out some of his posts, it's so cute, and I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

None of my friends or family know about it - I like having my own thing,.

I try to! I feel a bit bad sometimes as he occasionally chats on the Contiki forum and will ring me up to read out some of his posts, it's so cute, and I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

None of my friends or family know about it - I like having my own thing,.

Your not doing something wrong. Its not like hes asking you "hey Loola, are you chatting on the Adore Beauty Forum" and then you say "hell no"

That would be naughty

but he doesnt even know its exists so its fine. The only reason mine knows is cos he can see the computer - due to the one room thimble apartment

Yeah that's true - if he asked me straight out I'd tell him ... but i sincerely doubt that would happen,

He only learnt last week how to mark an email as unread.

My boy doesn't even know aboutthis forum!

Probably best not to, seeing as it is public! :)

Yeah - I can just deal with the pangs of guilt. He even told me his password to Facebook.

Yeah - I can just deal with the pangs of guilt. He even told me his password to Facebook.

WHAT? wow, thats trust!

It was so odd when he told me! I don't know why. Maybe to prove something to me? That he has nothing to hide, especially about all the Contiki girls. I dunno. Was weird...

thats great. My man and I have had many facebook issues. its ridiculous. :shakehead:

Yeah - it is a good thing, you're right ...

LIke trust issues and stuff????

I know you guys had a few issues a bit ago, are things going better now?

yeah. He did some dodgy stuff.

Things are much better, but we just spent the weekend with both families and the pressure to settle down is immense. It has us both a bit wound up. I know we shouldnt let it bother us but it does. Me especially, I start acting crazy and totally changing my mind about things just cos of what they say. And then he thinks im insane, cos im angry about stuff i didnt care about before.

Meh, we will get over it.

Doesn't sound fun though :shakehead: :hugs: The pressure is hard, you're too young to feel that with a relationship, but then it's like, how do you tune it out and fix things.

WHenever you need to vent, am here for you J2 :hugs::worship:

Doesn't sound fun though :shakehead: :hugs: The pressure is hard, you're too young to feel that with a relationship, but then it's like, how do you tune it out and fix things.

WHenever you need to vent, am here for you J2 :hugs::worship:

thanks honeybunch. we are usually back to normal within a few days, but his mum and my mum send me crazy, and the weird thing is its so selfishly motivated by them both, its all because "they dont want to be old grandmothers"

right well, thats a valid reason to get hitched and preggers.

Anyhoo... I feel better already!! thanks J1!!! :hugs:

Yeah parents can do that .... I guess I'm lucky that my brother is marrying Satan so anyone I bring home will be a bonus and they won't care what happens. But I do feel a defintie pressure to have kids, especially as what happened with my niece.

But so not the right reason to get married, and I love you know that. Be crazy, we are all at times. Whatever you need to deal with it and get through it. You're strong and you will be true yourself.

None of my friends or family know about it - I like having my own thing,.

No, none of my friends/family know about it either. Well, actually, my bro has probably seen me on it, but I doubt he cares. I will probably have some explaining to do when I suddenly have a GHD?!?! :chuckle: I will have to claim it as an ebay find!

RBB I am soooo happy you got the dress!! Are you going to hide it?? And how??! :chuckle: Are you guys going to go for a "look" for your wedding or just take it as it comes?

Yes - just say ebay! I get paid this week and will get one then, so you should have it next week!

You're the awesomest of awesomes!

I did, and I won! Slightly higher than originally planned :redcheeks: but it is divine.

Oh RBB, I am delighted for you! :glee:

YAY RBB im so glad you got your perfect dress!!!

I went through so many tears trying to find "my" dress before i snapped it and went to mr alex perry :rollthoseeyes: and that was only 3 months before the wedding! :redcheeks:

Saph, like you i will relive my wedding through the new brides :chuckle: i wish it could be my wedding day again (without having to plan anything)!

RBB I am soooo happy you got the dress!! Are you going to hide it?? And how??! :chuckle: Are you guys going to go for a "look" for your wedding or just take it as it comes?

Thanks Oz! Nah, pardner's already seen it. We're not traditional like that. RE: "look," definitely take it as it comes!

Oh RBB, I am delighted for you! :glee:

:kissing: c!

YAY RBB im so glad you got your perfect dress!!!

I went through so many tears trying to find "my" dress before i snapped it and went to mr alex perry :rollthoseeyes: and that was only 3 months before the wedding! :redcheeks:

Saph, like you i will relive my wedding through the new brides :chuckle: i wish it could be my wedding day again (without having to plan anything)!

Feel free to live through me! One of my other close friends just got engaged, though she thinks they're going to be married by the end of April. Am sure she could pull it off, but makes me wonder - is there another surprise she hasn't told me about???

It's truly so odd, a year ago both of us would have laughed if someone had said we'd be getting mawwied. Too funny!

We set the date for our wedding whilst we were away! My Mum was so excited she booked the church etc whilst we were away! Geeze that's enthusiasm for you!

YAAAY PCC how exciting!

And RBB - beautiful dress! You will look amazing

Love your dress RBB you will be stunning in it! Your wedding is going to be awesome to the extreme! Love it love it, love it!! Elvis Rules!!

We set the date for our wedding whilst we were away! My Mum was so excited she booked the church etc whilst we were away! Geeze that's enthusiasm for you!

so when is your big day PCC ?

so when is your big day PCC ?

Hi Fussy:waving:, 22nd November this year. A bit sooner than I had planned but I had to compromise with the boy as he wanted it sooner rather than later.

I am so layed back about the entire thing and haven't even thought about any of the details! The church and reception venue are only booked because my Mum raced and did it the day we told her the date. It is tradition in our family to get married in a particular church and Mum knew where I would want the reception to be so more power to her for organising it all!:chuckle:

I have no sense of urgency about anything really, in fact I think the boy is more into it at the moment than I am. As long as it is a lovely day that is special for the two of us I don't really care about the details.

There will be no bridezilla antics with me peoples.

How exciting PCC! :penguin: I know what you mean about laid back, same here. I just want it to be fun and relaxed.

Had a chuckle when you said he was more into it than you at the moment. Same with the pardner. I fear he will turn into groomzilla. He keeps going on about suits, suites and eats!

Wow PCC - that is soon! Well, according to wht people tell me it is - I was married 6 weeks after we set the date - cause we set the date for as soon as we could get married after getting the licence.

How exciting PCC! :penguin: I know what you mean about laid back, same here. I just want it to be fun and relaxed.

Had a chuckle when you said he was more into it than you at the moment. Same with the pardner. I fear he will turn into groomzilla. He keeps going on about suits, suites and eats!

I think it is so funny how these guys are getting right into the whole wedding thing. It's kind of cute. I am the least excited out of everyone I know. I guess as the time draws closer I may get more into it but at the moment it just seems too far away to worry about.

My dress will be very simple and plain and most likely ivory. The hardest parts will be choosing the bridemaids as I really don't want a big wedding party but I have so many close friends and family. Think I will just go with my best friend and my fiance's sister.

Wow PCC - that is soon! Well, according to wht people tell me it is - I was married 6 weeks after we set the date - cause we set the date for as soon as we could get married after getting the licence.

6 weeks Rosie, how on earth did you get it all together that quickly?

Weekend 1, we drove around, and found a garden. Got that, the reception & the flowers sorted that weekend.
Weekend 2, my mum, my sister & I went dress shopping - got it in less than 3 hours.
Weekend 3, we took mum shopping - that took all bluddy day.

Then, we just coasted until the actual day. Apart from a couple of meetings with the celebrant, and discussions with my mother over the fact that we were NOT having attendants, and that it was a small wedding, not a fancy do.

That sounds like a great wedding Rosie. I just want a simple but classy affair.

Hi Fussy:waving:, 22nd November this year. A bit sooner than I had planned but I had to compromise with the boy as he wanted it sooner rather than later.

I am so layed back about the entire thing and haven't even thought about any of the details! The church and reception venue are only booked because my Mum raced and did it the day we told her the date. It is tradition in our family to get married in a particular church and Mum knew where I would want the reception to be so more power to her for organising it all!:chuckle:

I have no sense of urgency about anything really, in fact I think the boy is more into it at the moment than I am. As long as it is a lovely day that is special for the two of us I don't really care about the details.

There will be no bridezilla antics with me peoples.

PCC that is two days before my wedding was - I married on the 24th last year. You sound like you are in the perfect space mentally, although trust me - things will get at least a tiny bit more stressful as the day draws closer! I am so happy for you. Marriages are sometimes underrated these days (despite the hype) so that we expect a big shebang on the day but nothing much else afterwards. For me, being part of a 'marriage' was a subtly magical, precious thing. It is like a magical, strange object that you have to protect with your heart and life - a real entity in this world. :)

PCC that is two days before my wedding was - I married on the 24th last year. You sound like you are in the perfect space mentally, although trust me - things will get at least a tiny bit more stressful as the day draws closer! I am so happy for you. Marriages are sometimes underrated these days (despite the hype) so that we expect a big shebang on the day but nothing much else afterwards. For me, being part of a 'marriage' was a subtly magical, precious thing. It is like a magical, strange object that you have to protect with your heart and life - a real entity in this world. :)

That's so beautiful, Saph. That's how I imagine it to be and I hope that I get to experience it one day.

RB & PCC - remember that your boys have been thinking about getting married long before they proposed so they already have their heqad around it. Let them make some decisons and don't forget to ask their opinions. Its important to do these things together.

Do your own thing. This is a biggie. Don't feel pressured to follow "The Rules" and make the day your own. It will make a lasting impression and you will enjoy yourself more in an enviroment that is comfortable to you. I broke tons & tons of tradtions with our our wedding & stepped on quite a few toes but it was worth every fight. It was OUR day.

My other piece of advice is to organise to the last detail with your professionals. Make sure that everyone is crystal clear of their role. The last thing you want is constant interruptions and questions by the caterer/MUA/celebant/photographer etc. Make them invisible.

M - that is awesome advice, and that first part, I never even thought about that - it's so true though. You so smart! I want to be you when I grow up.

Excellent tips, thanks M. You're totally right, the day is about two people NOT the bride. This attitude has always annoyed me!

We'll definitely do our own thing. I was feeling guilt over not inviting some of the relatives but to be honest, we never see each other and it would feel false. So I won't!

We know a fantastic photog, friend of the family - and she's offered to pay her own way to Vegas, because the trip will be great for her portfolio. How cool is that!

We know a fantastic photog, friend of the family - and she's offered to pay her own way to Vegas, because the trip will be great for her portfolio. How cool is that!

A win/win for all! How lucky for you RBB, one less thing for you to have to worry about once over there :)

We know a fantastic photog, friend of the family - and she's offered to pay her own way to Vegas, because the trip will be great for her portfolio. How cool is that!

How good is that!
Do you trust her work RBB?

How good is that!
Do you trust her work RBB?

Absolutely. She's one of the best in 'Berra. Does lots of weddings but also creative.

Here's her blog if anyone's interested:
http://photographybykellytunney.blogspot.com/

...the pardner's sister's wedding is called 'Karen and Ryan', here:
http://photographybykellytunney.blogspot.com/2008/01/karen-ryan-5-january-2008.html

The two little munchkins are our nephews!

OMG they r beautiful shots RBB , your wedding pics r going to be amazing :penguin::penguin:

can't see u well though :shakehead: :chuckle:

I think I might need a wedding planner!! I can't be bothered with all the little details! Choosing bridesmaids has been tricky as I have so many friends and relatives who have had me in their weddings and I don't want to offend anyone but I also don't want a massive wedding party.

I have asked my girls yesterday and they include my best friend who I grew up with since we were at preschool and who I have just visited in London. My other Best Friend who I went to Boarding School with and met when I was 12. My boys sister (who I absolutely love) and my brothers girlfriend because My Mum wanted it and My brother's going to be in it anyway. So four is more than I wanted anyway. But I am relieved the decision has been made. I have other close friends who are going to do readings and my cousin is going to sing in the church (she has an amazing voice).

I am also having my three god daughters take part but they are going to be taken care of by my cousin and aunt. I am thining of steeling Medusa's idea and having them dressed as fairies as they are only small.

I bet no one can guess what colour bridemaids dresses I am having?

RBB, I love Kelly's work.
When scanning the shots I began listing my preferences but gave up as as they were many.
But I must mention the shot of Karen solo under the sconce and the beautiful babies face on the lime green background. I just loved the below knee pic of the bride and maids and the piece Dee resistance, bridal dolls.:chuckle:

I love the idea of fairies!

I don't think you should have someone becuase your mum wanted out of family obligation.

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I bet no one can guess what colour bridemaids dresses I am having?

Ummm ..... Pink! :chuckle:

I love the idea of fairies!

I don't think you should have someone becuase your mum wanted out of family obligation.

I know Loola. It's just a small concession and it will hopefully bring me closer to his girlfriend. They have just built a new house together and we have been getting along a lot better after a strained first few years and I just want family harmony. She cried when I asked her and gave me the biggest hug and I think it is the right thing. It also made my brother happy and he means the world to me so I don't mind. Maybe you should be my wedding planner. I think you would be great!

I'd have coloured coded excel sheets in pink and a diamante headset!! Would be so much fun.

Though my first order of business would still have been you choosing who you wanted. I would have hated if Stupid Kylie asked me out of obligation. Of course, as it turned out, she had her sisters, my brother was having my other 3 brothers, and I was going to be the loser in the pew - that made me feel a ittle stupid. Maybe I would have got some naff job like Miranda is SATC with the guestbook :chuckle: THank god I won't be going.

There are some beuiful poems you could use as readings during your ceremony as well.

Oh and PCC - her bridesmaids are wearing BROWN :chuckle::chuckle::chuckle:

I did, and I won! Slightly higher than originally planned :redcheeks: but it is divine. And thanks Saph!!

Oh RBB, it has been days since I caught up with this thread! Congratulations on your win. See, you were meant to have it! :penguin:

Oh and PCC - her bridesmaids are wearing BROWN :chuckle::chuckle::chuckle:

Oh ok. I have seen some brodesmaids in brown and they looked gorgeous. I guess it just depends on the style etc. That pink diamonte headset is looking mighty appealing!

Congrats on your dress RBB, it's GORGEOUS :) and you will be just perfect in it! Oh and the Vegas wedding sounds awesome. I vote for fat jumpsuit Elvis.

SHe thought mushroom coloured balloons were an awesome idea and wears flaired jeans with lace inserts. She brushes her hair once a year.

We never expected much.

SHe thought mushroom coloured balloons were an awesome idea and wears flaired jeans with lace inserts. She brushes her hair once a year.

We never expected much.

OMG :chuckle::chuckle::chuckle:

PCC I think it's lovely you asked her. And you MUST have pink for your maids! Gorgeous!

Fairy outfits for the little girls would be so cute, and heaps of fun for them too.

Your wedding will be amazing.

PS Kate, the straw poll puts fat Elvis in the lead. Bring on the white jumpsuit!

Oh ok. I have seen some brodesmaids in brown and they looked gorgeous. I guess it just depends on the style etc. That pink diamonte headset is looking mighty appealing!

My BM dress for my bestie was dark brown and it was lovely. In fact, I always wanted brown BM dresses too!! And just as I was watching Gilmore Girls before, Lorelai wore a dark brown dress with a pale yellow ribbon to Lane's wedding and it looked gorgeous - I was thinking "hmmm, those would be nice bridesmaid colours!". :chuckle:

SHe thought mushroom coloured balloons were an awesome idea and wears flaired jeans with lace inserts. She brushes her hair once a year.

We never expected much.

:chuckle::chuckle::chuckle::chuckle::chuckle:

Absolutely. She's one of the best in 'Berra. Does lots of weddings but also creative.

Here's her blog if anyone's interested:
http://photographybykellytunney.blogspot.com/

...the pardner's sister's wedding is called 'Karen and Ryan', here:
http://photographybykellytunney.blogspot.com/2008/01/karen-ryan-5-january-2008.html

The two little munchkins are our nephews!

Absolutly love the 'unconvential bridal shoot' LOVE it!

Absolutly love the 'unconvential bridal shoot' LOVE it!

Apparently the new thing after the official stuff is over is to completely trash the dress (and have it as part of the photo shoot). I don't think I could do it, but must be almost cathartic for some!

PCC I think it's lovely you asked her. And you MUST have pink for your maids! Gorgeous!

Fairy outfits for the little girls would be so cute, and heaps of fun for them too.

Your wedding will be amazing.

PS Kate, the straw poll puts fat Elvis in the lead. Bring on the white jumpsuit!

Lol Rasp,
It just wouldn't be a PCC wedding without pink bridesmaids dreses now would it?:chuckle: I am kind of thinking of having four different shades of pink and four different styles of dresses to suit each individual bridesmaid. They are all quite small in build but I think I will leave it up to them to choose the styles they want and just have the same type of material for all the dresses. Most importantly I want them to feel good and comfortable on the day and I want them to be happy with what they are wearing.

I think I will vote for Fat Elvis too Rasp Lol:chuckle:

I am kind of thinking of having four different shades of pink and four different styles of dresses to suit each individual bridesmaid.

I have seen this sort of thing before, and I think its a fantastic idea! The same style of dress doesn't suit everyone...

I think I might need a wedding planner!! I can't be bothered with all the little details! Choosing bridesmaids has been tricky as I have so many friends and relatives who have had me in their weddings and I don't want to offend anyone but I also don't want a massive wedding party.

I have asked my girls yesterday and they include my best friend who I grew up with since we were at preschool and who I have just visited in London. My other Best Friend who I went to Boarding School with and met when I was 12. My boys sister (who I absolutely love) and my brothers girlfriend because My Mum wanted it and My brother's going to be in it anyway. So four is more than I wanted anyway. But I am relieved the decision has been made. I have other close friends who are going to do readings and my cousin is going to sing in the church (she has an amazing voice).

I am also having my three god daughters take part but they are going to be taken care of by my cousin and aunt. I am thining of steeling Medusa's idea and having them dressed as fairies as they are only small.

I bet no one can guess what colour bridemaids dresses I am having?

PCC I had five bridesmaids and it was wonderful - a mix of my little sister, best friends and niece - but be warned, the more bridesmaids you have the harder and more frustrating they will be! Mine were all wonderful but organising five of everything from another state and trying to get them all to communicate was a nightmare!

I also love your idea of different versions of pink dresses. I chose a teal silk for my maids and they had their own dresses made in whatever style they wanted - as long as it was in some way 'elegant cocktail'. Because of their lack of communication and my being in WA when they were in Vic, I was a little nervous that the finished dresses would clash with one another but it really worked - plus the look of five maids in the same colour and different styles walking through the crowd looked amazing. Please let me know if at any point you need any advice on anything wedding, PCC - I am now a bona fide pro and it is all still so fresh in my mind!

PCC I had five bridesmaids and it was wonderful - a mix of my little sister, best friends and niece - but be warned, the more bridesmaids you have the harder and more frustrating they will be! Mine were all wonderful but organising five of everything from another state and trying to get them all to communicate was a nightmare!

I also love your idea of different versions of pink dresses. I chose a teal silk for my maids and they had their own dresses made in whatever style they wanted - as long as it was in some way 'elegant cocktail'. Because of their lack of communication and my being in WA when they were in Vic, I was a little nervous that the finished dresses would clash with one another but it really worked - plus the look of five maids in the same colour and different styles walking through the crowd looked amazing. Please let me know if at any point you need any advice on anything wedding, PCC - I am now a bona fide pro and it is all still so fresh in my mind!

From a BM's point of view, it can be INCREDIBLY difficult to communicate with four other girls on things like shoes, jewellery, hem lengths etc. Usually the weekends are the only times that people have free and it can be very difficult for everyone to get together at the same time. With that in mind, sometimes it can be easier to make decisions on your own and not involve the girls, for example on shoes. That way you don't need to have five girls traipsing around to different shoe shops with one saying "I don't like peeptoes" and another going "I don't want slingbacks". I know that as a BM I would have appreciated my brides being a little more "hardass". In large groups of girls, if the bride doesn't establish herself as a firm, committed leader, then one of the bridesmaids definitely will, and that is NEVER good.

I've had this happen. Our dresses turned from antique pink to blue, and the styles of the dresses changed completely - all because one of the other bridesmaids was very particular, and the bride was very laid-back.

From a BM's point of view, it can be INCREDIBLY difficult to communicate with four other girls on things like shoes, jewellery, hem lengths etc. Usually the weekends are the only times that people have free and it can be very difficult for everyone to get together at the same time. With that in mind, sometimes it can be easier to make decisions on your own and not involve the girls, for example on shoes. That way you don't need to have five girls traipsing around to different shoe shops with one saying "I don't like peeptoes" and another going "I don't want slingbacks". I know that as a BM I would have appreciated my brides being a little more "hardass". In large groups of girls, if the bride doesn't establish herself as a firm, committed leader, then one of the bridesmaids definitely will, and that is NEVER good.

I've had this happen. Our dresses turned from antique pink to blue, and the styles of the dresses changed completely - all because one of the other bridesmaids was very particular, and the bride was very laid-back.

Sounds like hell Oz! :shockedhair:

You make a really good point!

It wasn't hell but did become difficult, C! Our bride was so laid-back to the point of almost not-caring, and her mum wasn't really on the scene either. Honestly I would have preferred to be told what she wanted my dress, shoes, hair etc to be like, instead of having to make the decisions with the other girls. I still get PTSD when I go into a fabric shop cos I remember the stress involved! :chuckle:

My bestie was sort of similar, she was trying to be really accomodating by letting me wear whatever I wanted in her colours, but I would have preferred guidance if truth be known! She was a lot better though - she'd already decided how she wanted hair and makeup to be, and also I didn't have any other girls to deal with so my shoes and jewellery were up to me.

Bring on the Bridezilla! :chuckle:

Thanks Sapphire and Oz for your input. I will be sure to call on you if I need help with tricky issues. Geeze I hadn't even thought about shoes! Perhaps I might get them all some Manolos of Jimmy Choos so they don't have a choice!

Thanks Sapphire and Oz for your input. I will be sure to call on you if I need help with tricky issues. Geeze I hadn't even thought about shoes! Perhaps I might get them all some Manolos of Jimmy Choos so they don't have a choice!

A pair of silver or gold (ie a neutral that would go well with pink as well as heaps of other colours) Jimmy Choos or Manolos would be a great BM gift!

A pair of silver or gold (ie a neutral that would go well with pink as well as heaps of other colours) Jimmy Choos or Manolos would be a great BM gift!

That's what I was thinking Oz, think I will go with silver though as I love pink and silver together.

I think my Mum is turning into a Mumzilla!! She is so into it all and gave me a serve this morning because I didn't care to choose a type and style of cake! I mean who cares about a cake, not me!! I told her to go ahead and choose it and she went troppo!! I think she has been living for this day for the whole entirety of my life and she is going off the deep end!

Oh and she's wanting me to get Alex Perry to do my dress and hers aswell. I couldn't give a rats about my dress and it's still ten months away. Hopefully a few kilos shed between now and then.

Don't get me wrong I want the day to be beautiful and special but I am just not one of these people who is into the tiny details! I'm just like "oh whatever". Perhaps it's because I have been through quite a lot with illness etc and to me the wedding isn't the biggest deal I have ever had to deal with!

I'll choose your cake for you!!! Mmmmm cake.

As for your mum, she's just being a mum. :) After everything you've been through, as her only daughter, she's probably overjoyed that you are here and she can help you plan your wedding!

I'll choose your cake for you!!! Mmmmm cake.

As for your mum, she's just being a mum. :) After everything you've been through, as her only daughter, she's probably overjoyed that you are here and she can help you plan your wedding!

I am so going to be relying on all of you for help and advice in order to pull this wedding off successfully and to keep my Mum happy by pretending to be interested in the tiny little details.

Yeah, bring every decision to us, we love this stuff!

I think the Alex Perry wedding dress offer is something you shouldn't pass up, it will be gorgeous. Oh, and if i was a BM and got those shoes I would be massivley loving you!!! Great idea!!

PCC darling, I hear you! And the most important thing for you is to enjoy the lead-up, not to be worried about details (though sounds like you have people to help with this!).

An Alex Perry dress would be amazing!

PCC darling, I hear you! And the most important thing for you is to enjoy the lead-up, not to be worried about details (though sounds like you have people to help with this!).

An Alex Perry dress would be amazing!

Stuff it Raspberry, I think I am coming to Vegas with you honey!

From a BM's point of view, it can be INCREDIBLY difficult to communicate with four other girls on things like shoes, jewellery, hem lengths etc. Usually the weekends are the only times that people have free and it can be very difficult for everyone to get together at the same time. With that in mind, sometimes it can be easier to make decisions on your own and not involve the girls, for example on shoes. That way you don't need to have five girls traipsing around to different shoe shops with one saying "I don't like peeptoes" and another going "I don't want slingbacks". I know that as a BM I would have appreciated my brides being a little more "hardass". In large groups of girls, if the bride doesn't establish herself as a firm, committed leader, then one of the bridesmaids definitely will, and that is NEVER good.

I've had this happen. Our dresses turned from antique pink to blue, and the styles of the dresses changed completely - all because one of the other bridesmaids was very particular, and the bride was very laid-back.

Mmm...I think that for many brides they have so much on that they want the maids to take some control - as long as the bride gives them direction. I was quite stressed with the whole thing in the end and I really needed to not worry about certain things, like if the maids shoes matched. But I do agree that the bride needs to project-manage her bridal party to an extent. With my maids and the shoes, for example I said wear what you want as long as it is silver and dress-sandal with straps. This worked well as there are a lot of styles in that genre out there. But remember that while the maids have a lot to think about, the bride has a whole lot more and essentially, they are there to make sure the bride does not have a breakdown!

Mmm...I think that for many brides they have so much on that they want the maids to take some control - as long as the bride gives them direction. I was quite stressed with the whole thing in the end and I really needed to not worry about certain things, like if the maids shoes matched. But I do agree that the bride needs to project-manage her bridal party to an extent. With my maids and the shoes, for example I said wear what you want as long as it is silver and dress-sandal with straps. This worked well as there are a lot of styles in that genre out there. But remember that while the maids have a lot to think about, the bride has a whole lot more and essentially, they are there to make sure the bride does not have a breakdown!

Geeze at this rate my Mum will be giving me a breakdown! Did you find your Mum got over enthusiastic Sapphy?

Maybe give her certain things you want her to do PCC? Like, the cake, decorations etc? You worry about the things that concern you most - your outfit, the colour of the bridesmaid's dress colours.

Umm yeah Rosie but she's like wanting me to be involved in all the decision making and thinks I am being horrible for not being bursting at the seams with joy and excitement.

She's organised a bloody tasting at the reception venue in a few weeks and has invited the boy and his family over to participate. I mean who does that when the wedding's ten months away. She says it because the weather now will be similar to the time so we will be in a good position to test the climate out for the dishes etc. My boy thinks it's hysterical and said we should go to Gold Class at the movies whilst the parentals decide.

I tried to talk to her today but she just doesn't get it. As far as she is concerned this is as much her day of days as it is mine and she just wants to soak it all up and enjoy every moment. After all she says "you are our only daughter". I wish I had thought of eloping before setting the date!

Ah yes, there it is - the only daughter syndrome. I must admit, I think my sister is going to cop it bigtime when/if she gets married. I was sooooooo laid back, Mum missed the whole thing.

:hugs:

Hi PCC!! I have missed so much in just a couple of days!! I just wanted to say I'm so happy for you and it's so fun reading about your plans. Make sure you keep us informed so we can live vicariously through you!!

RBB, I showed my mum you dres last night and she thinks it's like the most awesome dress ever, 'speshly the back!

Umm yeah Rosie but she's like wanting me to be involved in all the decision making and thinks I am being horrible for not being bursting at the seams with joy and excitement.

She's organised a bloody tasting at the reception venue in a few weeks and has invited the boy and his family over to participate. I mean who does that when the wedding's ten months away. She says it because the weather now will be similar to the time so we will be in a good position to test the climate out for the dishes etc. My boy thinks it's hysterical and said we should go to Gold Class at the movies whilst the parentals decide.

I tried to talk to her today but she just doesn't get it. As far as she is concerned this is as much her day of days as it is mine and she just wants to soak it all up and enjoy every moment. After all she says "you are our only daughter". I wish I had thought of eloping before setting the date!

Yowza. Sounds like you have Mum-zilla on your hands darling one! I can see where she's coming from, but at the same time the last thing you want is to feel stressed out 10 months out. Maybe some quiet time with just the two of you would help...?

RBB, I showed my mum you dres last night and she thinks it's like the most awesome dress ever, 'speshly the back!

Welcome back petal!

Oh yay, that's cool! It's pretty awesome. I got an Aus Post card thingie in the mail today, I think it might be ready to pick up! Eek! :penguin:

Ooooooh how exciting!!! I love almost nothing more than getting stuff in the mail! :penguin: Especially if it's a WEDDING DRESS!

Omg Rbb, I bet it will be even more beautiful in the flesh!

Who wants to see my wedding dress?

Doesn't anyone want to see my wedding dress............:shakehead:

Ummmm, I DO!

Ok VeeE you asked for it!! Here it is.

LOL AS IF!!

Hahahahahahahahahahaha!

Actually, that pink wedding dress is the same colour my friends is getting married in this friday and very similar in how big the skirt bit is, very princessy, however not as frilly and more simple.

Actually, that pink wedding dress is the same colour my friends is getting married in this friday and very similar in how big the skirt bit is, very princessy, however not as frilly and more simple.

And less Hello Kitty.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA PCC :clapping: :whipcrack:

Actually, that pink wedding dress is the same colour my friends is getting married in this friday and very similar in how big the skirt bit is, very princessy, however not as frilly and more simple.