It's meant to be a marker. Isn't it?

I was meant to have it all. I was going to have at least one bun in the oven by now, along with an enchanting and creative companion to inspire me each morning as I opened my thirty-year-old eyes that were full of newly acquired wisdom.

So that was the plan when I was a young fresh-faced, barely-breasted bumpkin. I also had a plan to be a successful rock star with a song entitled 'Bad Kangaroo'.

So yes, there has been a little shuffling around of goals since those tender years. But really, is this fairy tale unattainable, or was I just blindly drinking in some bar and missed the call when they phoned to say my thirty year old life was ready?

I was excited about the birthday. I was happy. The day came and went and then paranoia set in post celebration.

So I have meandered through the post birthday months in pretty much the same way I did before. Not much has changed. In my own mind; I am still a big kid doing some adult stuff but with maybe a touch more contentment, yet still have a desire for more.

I am now one more in the growing number clucky thirty year olds who thrive on share housing, live music, drinking and a disposable income whilst imagining how children, packed lunches and a partner can fit in to all this.

We are a new breed, a generation of thirty-somethings who want to have their cake and eat all of the damned thing too! And why not?

Maybe it's not such a bad thing with some couples getting married with a check list like it's a seasonal fashion statement while others sell their sense of self and souls to live the cliche for fear of never having it all.

I'm not a number nor an accessory, so while I may be thirty (and clucky) I'm just going to take my time and sew my thirty-year-old wild oats for a little longer until I am damned well ready.

Had a horrid experience or a or a glorious epiphany with a birthday? Tell us 'bout it!

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I am one year shy of you, and feel EXACTLY the same way, especially as the oldest of for girls and already an aunty!!! Would love to have babies too soon, thought I would by the time I was 28 (that was the plan), but as career aspirations set in, I too am thinking can I possibly, ever, really truly have it all?? Otherwise, what am I going to sacrifice???:(

Allison,
I am turning 30 in December and personally I can't wait! I am enjoying my life more with every passing year. I am appreciating the little things in life now more than ever and get pleasure from the simplest things. My life hasn't exactly gone to plan either but remember your 30's are supposedly the best years of your life! Life hasn't been kind to me in my 20's having spent the past decade fighting acute illness so I am hoping my 30's will be a big improvement.

I am certainly not going to get married any time soon and kids aren't an option for me but you just remember most women aren't having kids until their mid to late 30's or early 40's these days so you still have plenty of time!

From one who is turning 40 on her next birthday, I say enjoy your thirties! They are some of your best years. Dont be in too much of a hurry to settle down, plenty of time for that! I am personally looking forward to my forties, it just gets better ladies!:D

Couldn't agree with you more PCC. My 30th is in two years and, while I used to be apprehensive, now I look forward to it. I've never really had a 'life plan' but I like where and who I am now. It can only get better, I say!

I'm not quite 30 (28 in a months time in fact) - however I feel a lot older. Don't forget your only as old as you feel... so I'm sure you feel a lot younger than I do. Babies will come when it is meant to happen - take this from someone who can't have children. I was diagnosed with Kidney Disease at 26, Insulin-Dependent Diabetes came three months after that, then six months later I discovered I have a genetic blood disorder. Priorities? well happiness and health is all that matters. You are a successful woman who is much admired. Age is not a number but a lifetime of experience. :worship:

Whenever someone asks my advice about having kids, I say think hard. The actual impact it makes on your life is unimaginable. You will feel emotions you never thought you had & wondered what the hell you did with all your time before? It is fantastic & horrendous all at the same time. Never ever think that a baby will save a relationship, its such hard work that it threatens even the strongest partnerships. So enjoy your life now & do everything you want - travel, study, work, play.
Become the person you have always wanted to be.

So true Medusa. Children impact greatly in lots of ways, good and bad. So enjoy your carefree years girls!

I'm 19 years old and am taking action now to set my self up for babies etc when I'm 20's/30's/whenever. Honestly? I'm just not suited to being young. I get tired easily, I don't like drugs (really, I've tried them, I just don't like them!), I get excited by saving my money, I'd rather stay at home and knit (seriously) than go out and party (although...that could be because Canberra is pretty dead). I'm staying in a job I hate because it pays a lot of money so I will soon have enough saved to put a deposit on a house.

Toastie,

Live it up!! I moved out of home and in with a partner at a young age. I was scared of doing anything I dreamt of. My folks put me into beauty school straight after high school they said I could study make up artistry and theatre later.

I thought I would just own a suburban beauty salon and have a nice safe existance. I was afraid to travel too.

I stayed in a 'safe' relationship for two years and was very unhappy. When I got bold and moved out on my own and started going out and seeing a little more of the world and music and culture I perked up.

After a few more years I found the courage to audition for one of the best theatre schools in the country and got in! In a uni break I went to Europe and fell in love. I went back again in another break and followed my heart and lived there for three months working (and a beauty therapist and music and theatre reviewer- I even got to interview The Stills!) and travelling and being utterly nutty. (not much has changed since!)


I have not looked back. Yes my sensible folks set me up in a wonderful career that has led me to be writing to you here, but I would not be the same if I had not followed my dream and done some absolutely mad things along the way!

I now have two careers, I still stay up too late, I dress madly at times, say the wrong things, go skinny dipping, and have found within this thirty year old the twenty year old that wanted to grow up way too fast.

Yes I am making up for lost time! Thank God! I finally feel like I have the balance between being an adult and keeping the big kid alive inside.

I always saved and have always worked, but balance in all things. Be crazy and frivolous sometimes. It's therapy for the young soul in all of us!!

I'm 24 but have found that along with being young comes a lot of fear, uncertainty and lack of confidence. With every passing year I gain more and more perspective on the world and my place in it. I just had my 24th birthday and I thought I'd be really depressed and feeling old (still haven't finished uni, still living at home etc) but I felt great. I did what I wanted and had a great day. I got awesome presents which I think means that people know me well - which is a great feeling! In no way do I have it all figured out yet - not by a looooong loooong loooooooong shot. But when I think back to how clueless I was in my late teens and early 20s, I feel confident and secure in who I am now (well, sort of).

Oh so true ozkat! I am 22... I have been living out of home, by myself, and working full time for close to a year. In some ways I feel old, in that I now have to look after myself. If I don't shop - I have no food. If I spend too much eating out - I am broke. If I don't do the washing - I have no clothes. Like Toastie, I get tired but I still enjoy going out with friends. My favourite is Friday night - straight after work, so you meet up at about 5.30 and can go home after a great, fun night at 12 or 1am. Saturday night I love to see friends, go out for dinner and the movies etc - and celebrate that it is ok to do this with friends, and as a single gal, I don't need to be out trying to meet some guy!

I need to work on my finances, and pay off debts, so that I am more secure in my late 20s and onwards. I hope by the time I am 30 I have met someone wonderful but I am not counting on it - living by myself has made me realise I am happy within myself, and whenever I am not so happy - I always have a wonderful girlfriend to lean on.

I'm going to be 29 on Sunday which means that next year it's the big 3-0... right now it doesn't bother me but it might in 11 months' time :chuckle:

Im so boring. Im 23 and stuck in a rut at the moment. 5 months ago I broke up with my BF and since then things have been very quiet. My life is work and home (I still live with my parents). My social life has become non-existent, and have lost touch with most of my friends, due to the fact I was totally loved up in my relationship and became slack with my friendships (bad move).

I know I need a change. Just what is the problem.

Im so boring. Im 23 and stuck in a rut at the moment. 5 months ago I broke up with my BF and since then things have been very quiet. My life is work and home (I still live with my parents). My social life has become non-existent, and have lost touch with most of my friends, due to the fact I was totally loved up in my relationship and became slack with my friendships (bad move).

I know I need a change. Just what is the problem.
Let's go to Europe toghether Elizabeth!! :D

Sounds like an excellent idea Toastie ! :) Im all for it.

My philosophy is live life to the fullest, treat every day like a bonus, live everyday like it's your last. It is a priveledge to grow older not everyone gets that oppurtunity.

I agree with everything PCC wrote. Do things that make you happy and live for the moment because you never know what's around that corner and always be greatful for all the good things in your life and don't take anything for granted :)

Im so boring. Im 23 and stuck in a rut at the moment. 5 months ago I broke up with my BF and since then things have been very quiet. My life is work and home (I still live with my parents). My social life has become non-existent, and have lost touch with most of my friends, due to the fact I was totally loved up in my relationship and became slack with my friendships (bad move).

I know I need a change. Just what is the problem.

thanks for the next blog idea! stay tuned for some survival tips!

xxx