After a party on Saturday night, copious amouns of alcohol and another fight with my partner had me thinking, what is the definition of 'a drinking problem?', do i have one..:shockedhair:

Is it only classed as a problem if you feel you cant go without a drink, which is certainly not my problem or can a drinking problem also be not knowig your limit and doing stupid things that hurting the people you love and are embarrased of the next day..i.e. binge drinking?????

I really dont know what to do, i thought i was over this and had gained some self control...clearly not after my fablous performance last night.

Do I stop drinking all together or limit myself (which i can do because im not so drunk at that point that i dont care if i have another)?????????

After a party on Saturday night, copious amouns of alcohol and another fight with my partner had me thinking, what is the definition of 'a drinking problem?', do i have one..:shockedhair:

Is it only classed as a problem if you feel you cant go without a drink, which is certainly not my problem or can a drinking problem also be not knowig your limit and doing stupid things that hurting the people you love and are embarrased of the next day..i.e. binge drinking?????

I really dont know what to do, i thought i was over this and had gained some self control...clearly not after my fablous performance last night.

Do I stop drinking all together or limit myself (which i can do because im not so drunk at that point that i dont care if i have another)?????????

Hi there PS, I'm sorry to hear that you had such a bad experience Saturday night, hope you are not feeling too unwell today?

Having a drinking problem is not only needing alcohol to get through the day; it is also when your drinking affects aspects your life and your relationships negatively. If you are having concerns about the effects your drinking is having, I would advise getting some info from trained professionals in this area (ie through a phone service). They will be able to give more accurate information. The fact that you have brought this up here at the forum suggests that you have concerns, and would like to maybe make a change; I guess questions to ask yourself in the meantime are; are you able to control the amount of alcohol you drink (ie, knowing when to stop), do you have to drink when you go out and do events like Saturday night happen often when you drink? I can look into phone counselling/information services for you, if you are interested? Take care PS.

PS, BPJ has brought up some important things for you to consider, I dont have any more to add except echoing the need to perhaps talk to someone about it. Having relationship issues can bring upon a lack of judgement (or care?). Glad you have the guts to confront it. Good luck!

I was worried once that I couldn't say no to a drink, so I tested myself. In the 7 weeks leading up to Christmas I didn't have one sip of alcohol. I even managed to just drink coke at our chrissy party :shockedhair: . I no longer have any concerns, because I know it doesn't rule me. Both BPJ and luisa have very good advice and it's probably better to speak to a professional.

After a party on Saturday night, copious amouns of alcohol and another fight with my partner had me thinking, what is the definition of 'a drinking problem?', do i have one..

Its always better to be safe than sorry and talk to a professional. After all what is there to lose? Even if drinking is not a problem there may be some other issues they can talk through with you, and thats go to be a plus.

If you are wanting to do something about it then that is a fantastic start.

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thanks everyone, all great advice. Will get onto it tonight.

Its not that i cant say no to a drink its that i dont know how to stop in certain environments. I think i need to be more careful around certain people and situations.

Good luck. You can do it!!

It's a hard one. I have to say that in my late teens/early 20's - went through much the same. I try not to binge drink now, as I hate the way I feel in the morning, but years ago, I used to drink to get drunk if you like, and the inevitable regrets of fighting with the other (usually) drunk one also.
Got quite embarrasing for both of us - we have been together 12 years, so have grown out of that, and I still have a glass of wine every few nights. I make a point of not drinking when I'm at work functions, say, as I tend to open my mouth and say things I may well mean, but not intend to say when sober!
But I still have a few with friends etc, and can get quite happy without the ruckus!
I wouldnt stress too much - be aware and try and tailor it next time.
Oh, and being drunk doen't mean that issues are suddenly there, it just means that your not being rational - you lose inhibitions and say/do things you dont mean. Doesnt make it right, but doesnt mean all is wrong either, if that makes sense.

It's a hard one. I have to say that in my late teens/early 20's - went through much the same. I try not to binge drink now, as I hate the way I feel in the morning, but years ago, I used to drink to get drunk if you like, and the inevitable regrets of fighting with the other (usually) drunk one also.
Got quite embarrasing for both of us - we have been together 12 years, so have grown out of that, and I still have a glass of wine every few nights. I make a point of not drinking when I'm at work functions, say, as I tend to open my mouth and say things I may well mean, but not intend to say when sober!
But I still have a few with friends etc, and can get quite happy without the ruckus!
I wouldnt stress too much - be aware and try and tailor it next time.
Oh, and being drunk doen't mean that issues are suddenly there, it just means that your not being rational - you lose inhibitions and say/do things you dont mean. Doesnt make it right, but doesnt mean all is wrong either, if that makes sense.

Yes you make total sense. I also make a point of drinking very little at work functions.

Thanks heaps.