Is there anyone else out there who isn't blessed with good genes and has to watch what they eat? I have many friends and family who eat what they want but still stay slim. I just get really downhearted about this because i'm trying really hard and not eating things that i want to and i'm not losing weight fast enough. I'm not blaming skinny people at all i get so confused.

I'm just curious to see if i'm on my own here.

Nope you're not on your own there. In reality most of us do have to watch what we eat and exercise.

Eating badly will catch up with them one day.

Yeah i guess, i'm only 21 and i'v enever been able to eat rubbish, although i did eat it anyway. I used to eat a meat pie as afternoon tea and ice coffee after school and now i wonder why i've got so much "junk in the trunk". Heheheh i'll keep soldering on.

I try to eat healthy food but if I wanted I could eat junk all the time. I never put on weight. It's not necessarily a good thing, though. I get people asking me all the time whether I have an eating disorder etc and it gets me down sometimes.

I try to eat healthy food but if I wanted I could eat junk all the time. I never put on weight. It's not necessarily a good thing, though. I get people asking me all the time whether I have an eating disorder etc and it gets me down sometimes.

Toastie you tell those nosy people to bugger off! Our eating habits are very personal and if you're being healthy most of the time then you're doing pretty well. And it's totally fine to reward yourself/have treats. I used to be "one of those people" who ate whatever they wanted and stayed slim. I'm still slim but I really have to watch it - I can't live on burgers and chocolate like I used to. But you know what - I got to a point where it made me feel like crap, like I was dragging myself around and tired all the time. So even though I was on the thinner side I felt unhealthy and gross. I ended up going to a dietician and she gave me a sensible meal plan and some tips on things to avoid/things that didn't react well with my tummy & body type.

Assume you're exercising too? Losing weight is bluddy hard and it's that delicate balance between diet and exercise that I always find difficult. The other Adoreables will no doubt have some good advice on this.

Good luck, I'm sure you'll find something that works for you :hugs:

OK - this is made for me. I have always been on the bigger side - I'm a size 14 so not fat but definately more chubby than I would like (blasted overhang!!). I have always had skinny friends, and both of my sisters are slim. It's hard to deal with and I wonder why I look like I do when we were brought up eating the same food! I do have a penchant for eating crap but am trying really hard to cut it right back. I also joined the gym a week and a half ago and have been going 3 times a week and following my program. This is the scary bit - my trainer told me that DIET ACCOUNTS FOR 90% and EXERCISE COUNTS FOR 10% of any body change/weight loss. Makes sense if you think about the time we spent eating compared to the time we spend exercising. So exercising is very important for our bodies, and to tone up, but eating is what will really make the difference. And since I have recently embarked on this plan, people keep telling me how silly I am and that I am 'womanly' and should be 'proud of my curves'. Hard to be proud when boys swarm to skinny girls and I am left at the end of the night alone!! (Or with the creepy old guys... eeew)

Oh good topic!

I get a bit that way too - but the thing to remember is even though they might look skinny (healthy) on the outside, by eating junk they really aren't doing their insides any favour. They can still look slim but not be healthy, in the same way that you can look a little larger and be perfectly healthy!

*I say this as I eat my freddo frog* :whistle:

We just have to remember that we are all different and we're never going to be like the models in mags who are airbrushed to boot!

That's very true celestefay. A lot of people think if they do a little exercise then they can eat whatever they like ...wrong!! There are always going to be critics on skinny vs. curvy. There are also going to be people who try telling you 'eating this wont hurt' or 'doing that doesnt matter'... it all matters. Good on you for joining a gym, you will learn a lot with your trainer.

I wonder if my bod will change? I am about to take on my first sedentary job ever. No more running around, up and down steps and constantly moving. I have been the same size and weight for at least the last 15 years even though I have had a child. I used to do a lot of weights so was more toned but you shouldve seen my muscles and my neck - way too masculine.It is funny what you say about siblings who were brought up in the same house eating the same food - I have a brother and sister who are stick thin. That said, I can eat what I want without shifting the scales, it's just that I choose not to. I am not particularly fond of junk/take away food or choc (although do love a lolly!) but am happy just to have one biscuit or sweet and be satisfied. I know people who get so obsessed with their weight, (even the stick thin ones) and who cannot stop at one piece of choc or one biscuit, they have to eat the entire lot. I wonder if that relates to the fact they are feeling deprived? So I think everything in moderation and who cares what you look like as long as YOU are comfortable in your own skin!

I hear you Luisa. I went from running around Toys 'R' Us like a headless chook for 3 years, to sitting behind a desk for 10 hours a day. It's really hard because you do put on weight, you're not as active. I just have to make up for it by watching what I eat and exercising hard.

I only have a brother he is 2 years younger than me and he is an elite athlete. I'm about as athletic as a dead banana! He eats so much food from insanely health to insanely unhealthy and never puts on weight! I on the other hand only have to look at something unhealthy and the weight piles on.

People often comment on how different my brother and I are saying he takes after my Mum and I take after my Dad. I have been on steroids for three years (made me put on around 20kg) because of my kidney disease and that certainly hasn't helped any.

However I have reached a point in my life now where I am at peace with myself. I try to look after myself as best as I can (i excercise and eat healthily most of the time) and try not to worry about that which I can not change. I feel very thankful just to be alive and I firmly believe that all good things come to those who wait. When I look in the mirror I sometimes think god I wish I could have the old me back (20kg lighter) but then I just reassure myself that it isn't all bad and focus on the positive things like my good skin and good heart.

That's the attitude Pcc! My brother and sister also take after my dad's side whereas I take after my mum's. Didnt I hear that they found evidence to suggest genes only make up a small part of what size we become - I think that's rubbish if you look at my family!

Nope you're not on your own there. In reality most of us do have to watch what we eat and exercise.

Eating badly will catch up with them one day.

Ditto!!

so true I think it will catch up with them eventually, and remember you only get out of your body what you put in it.

I believe in balance, sensible food choices & regular exercise you enjoy and you can eat out (or what you want every now and then) if you take care of yourself... this does work :waving: :chuckle: :spin: for me.

i'm one of those confused girls whom people say is on the skinny side, but i still see myself as a bit on the large side .....

having said that, although it gets me down sometimes, well, often, i'm not really into exercise, and although i love food, if i have it i have it, if i don't, so be it. so some days i might eat myself out of house and home, then other days won't touch a skeric (spelling?!).

i really hate the impact the media has on women to be trim and terrific. you never see anything being advertised by a normal looking woman.

having said that, i really don't care what anyone weighs. it's the character that is the important bit.

I come from a family of Skinny people, and while I'm not huge (I'm a size 12) I have always wondered why I'm the only one in my family that's "big boned"

OK - this is made for me. I have always been on the bigger side - I'm a size 14 so not fat but definately more chubby than I would like (blasted overhang!!). I have always had skinny friends, and both of my sisters are slim. It's hard to deal with and I wonder why I look like I do when we were brought up eating the same food! I do have a penchant for eating crap but am trying really hard to cut it right back. I also joined the gym a week and a half ago and have been going 3 times a week and following my program. This is the scary bit - my trainer told me that DIET ACCOUNTS FOR 90% and EXERCISE COUNTS FOR 10% of any body change/weight loss. Makes sense if you think about the time we spent eating compared to the time we spend exercising. So exercising is very important for our bodies, and to tone up, but eating is what will really make the difference. And since I have recently embarked on this plan, people keep telling me how silly I am and that I am 'womanly' and should be 'proud of my curves'. Hard to be proud when boys swarm to skinny girls and I am left at the end of the night alone!! (Or with the creepy old guys... eeew)

Celestefay, this is me exactly. I always go home alone without even a nibble of any interested guys. I'm so sick of it i wanna scream because i've been single 5years now and i truly believe it is because of my size. I get so down about it i just wanna cry all day long but then i get over it and realise i am single is i'm not comfortable with myself yet and most of the time i hate myself and i think guys can tell that. I just want to be me but everywhere i turn i'm being told no one is going to want me as me because of the way i look. I'm a size 10-12 on top and 12-14 on the bottom half so i'm not exactly proportioned, i'm told also that i am womanly adn that those kind of curves are sexy, if thats true WHERE'S MY MAN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So i'm going out tonight and i'm going to me as confident as i can be and hopefully the guy i have my eye on will be there and i might get my act together and so something about this single problem i'm having.
Sorry for the crap i've been talking everyone.

I used to eat whatever I liked and stay a size 8... but that all finished when I hit my early 20's :shakehead:

These days I don't really eat junk food (McDonalds, chocolate bars etc) but I do like to go out to restaurants a bit, also like my wine, and am also addicted to cheese! So I have to go to the gym to avoid getting podgy. My trainer always gives me heaps about eating fattening things ("you could be getting such great results if you ate better" etc), but I always say what is the point of having six-pack abs if you never get to eat cheese! :rollthoseeyes:

I'm lucky to be able to eat whatever I want and stay slim, but I'm also unlucky to have stomach problems and feel extremely ill for long periods of time when I do eat crap constantly. I have been on many special diets and lifestye changing food plans (which is hard for a 23yr old who is always out for dinner), but it's only to keep my health on the straight and narrow.

I'd much prefer to eat healthy and not be sick now, (or in the long run) then be stupid and eat junk 24/7 just becasue I stay slim.

Hey princess,
It's normal to feel that way. But you will find most guys don't just like skinny girls, quite a lot of guys do like a woman with curves. It's much more sexier than bones poking out. I had a friend who was super skinny (about an 8) and when I hugged her I felt like I was going to break her. I thought this was how guys saw it too. I know my bf doesn't like them super skinny, and I'm about 10 on top and 11-12 on bottom.
Also don't forget its not always dependent on size, there are plenty of girls who are sized 12-14, and they are more fit then a 8-10! It's how you feel inside. Wear clothes that compliment you and make you happy, because it will make you more confident. That's what guys are attracted to, personality and a lovely big smile.
:hugs:

Sorry don't mean to generalise there, everyone is different. It's hard to say "this is what people prefer".

I agree with you Jaime, it's about how you feel about yourself and that will always show through, so you don't need to be an exact size. It's hard though to try and convince yourself that you love what you've got when you really feel like you don't, so simply aim to be in a good position of the healthy weight range and then go from there. Health is actually ten times more beautiful than a particular size, cause that's when you really glow (also, looking after yourself helps your skin :) which I'm sure we all think very important on this forum). I remember the first time breaking the 50 kilo mark in Grade 11 (I had very serious eating disorders which I nearly lost my life to) and I thought the number was the most hideous thing in the world!! Now I'm a healthy size 8-10, have put on more weight but I feel fantastic about myself, I'm happy, am on a gluten free diet (I have an intolerance) and it has changed my health a lot for the better. Skinny people who eat rubbish are often as unhappy as those who are overweight and eat rubbish, and even though they may look skinny on the outside, their insides are probably screaming out in protest.

Have fun tonight Princess Precious! It does come down to confidence in many ways - but there are still some guys who are just Not Interested in girls who are not short and skinny. But that's ok! Cos we don't want them either - and I know I have a specific 'type' I look for so many men do not fit into my categories either. You sound gorgeous though, definately not overweight. And yes most men do like a bit of something to hold onto. JAMES your opinion here could be useful??

Hi princess precious :waving:

It sounds as though you really have nothing to worry about, and maybe it does have a little to do with confidence. If you feel great/sexy/attractive/confident then you come across as that to others.

I've also been single for nearly 4 years (maybe more - I've forgotten to keep counting) :rollthoseeyes: and I know how you feel. I'm 6'2", about 86kg (have just lost about 6kg) and always struggle to find someone to even just chat to at the bar/party/insert event here. The poor lads need to be tall enough to get on this ride! :chuckle: so that's half my battle, but even that is a hinderance - I scare most guys off (and some tall guys actually like shorter women too)

I've recently started saying 'yes' to most functions I'm invited along to in the hope that I gain more social confidence and meet wider circles of people.. thus increasing my chances of meeting men - even just for friendship. I have found in the past that it's when I go out just to have fun with no expectations that I'll try and meet someone that I usually have the most fun and come away with a number.

Anyway, on that note, I think I look pretty hot today (as hot as work attire can go) and have said yes to after work drinks - who knows what could happen! :penguin: :penguin:

Good luck with your own event tonight - just say to yourself
'Any man would be lucky to have me' :hearts:

Nattieb we too have something in common - I am 6 foot tall and I feel like a giant (and like all atractive men are small and short!!!) so I understand how hard it is to meet tall men! nd yes I feel like kicking them when they are with short girls - short goes with short, tall with tall!!! I also get told I am 'intimidating' which really annoys me. I am tall, confident and loud, and most guys can't deal with that! So I am on the (subtle) look-out for a tall man who has enough of his own self confidence to not feel like he is in my shadow!!

Glad to know I'm not alone!

I've actually just been talked into going to the D&D ball this year - and I was able to say on the 'hook me up' section how tall i was and how tall my 'match' should be! should be interesting

Do you ever get short-er guys coming up to you when you are sitting down (and you KNOW they are too short) and then you stand up and they just can't get over how tall you are!?? Drives me insane!! :eek:

Oh and I have two younger (but taller than me brothers) and have drummed it into them to date the taller girls!!!! I'm doing my bit for the tall girls out there!

I've had a couple of guys only interested in one nighters and they were both short and i'm towered over them. It kinda freaks me out and makes me feel big. but then i think of tom & katie, tom & nicole etc. its just a litle odd to me. I need to get over it.

yes very intresting thread indeed ladies....

well i stay the same size no matter what i eat, a size 8, i dont feel that an 8 is 'skinny' as i dont starve myself to be this size and im not boney etc because it comes naturally.
some people can be very rude about peoples sizes but only if you are thin not large (apprently its only p.c to comment on small people, not overweight people) and have made a very rude lady cry on a wine trail when i told her what i thought of her 'remark'.:mad:

over the last few years i have been trying to make healthier choices because it makes me feel better and dont want the weight to just pile on when i turn 30 and have been exercising regulary to stay toned as i have more shape and feel a lot hotter when i exercise.

also someone brought up the family thing...me and my sister are both tall..im about 5"7 and she is taller than me and only 17, but she is a lot bigger than me (size 14-16)and has to watch what she eats, she was also confused (us having the same genes and all) growing up in the same house..eating same foods...but she would put on weight although no-one in our family is big.

bit of a rant! but im sure all you ladies are beautiful..as beautiful doesnt only fit into one category ;)