Diary of an ex-strumpet, episode 4: EX-strumpet not sex strumpet!

Oh my God gals! After reading the responses to episode three I can see that you have been busy!

Has anyone read the book yet??? Sounds like some of you are being very very naughty and need some smacks on the bottom.

A lady DOES NOT text first- let him chase and then you won't feel that dread waiting for a response. UGH! I know it's so hard and I am waiting myself right now but you must be strong.

No jumping into bed either!! It throws a spanner in the works. No horizontal dates until you know that you are indeed a fully fledged couple. Too much 'are we/aren't we', what's going on' to deal with after the fact. Go right ahead if you love a bit of drama, but if you want the upper hand and the magic wand of 'I am in control' then keep your little legs crossed.

It is tough stuff and you need have ways to cope so here are my tips:

When tempted to make the call go and write a pretend email that you are NOT going to send until they email or call you FIRST.

When thinking about them non stop, go and call or email a friend or anyone at all and tell them all about the fantastic stuff that is happening in your week so far.

When you feel like your very happiness depends upon their next call go away and tear out pictures from a magazine and paste them on the wall of all the things that inspire you!

When you feel like they are just so awesome go and write a list of all the things you are brilliant at and then a list of creative or productive goals that you are going to achieve this week and another list of things that you are going to achieve in this life (it can be anything).

Get into Fung shui action. There is nothing more therapeutic than rearranging the furniture, planning some pot plants and creating some bliss around the house. Make sure you fung shui the relationship corner of your bedroom. (Stand by the door of your room and look to the far right diagonal corner of the room and there it is) You could put a plant there along with your list of ideal qualities in your man and things in pairs.

Go back online and check out potential boys on the dating site or myspace or wherever- so you know there are a plethora of opportunities who knows!

The idea is to focus on YOU and to be productive so your life is awesome with or without the call and you feel IN CONTROL of the events in YOUR life!

Once he does call it's fine to say 'Oh hello! it's great to hear from you', to be happy and positive and affirming (it's not at all about being an ice queen- not at all!) but you DO NOT ever go on the hot pursuit!!

Yes gals I am the woman you love to hate, I am banishing your old ways. This is about banishing the strumpet and being the lady in control of all your dates and ways!

Try it I dare you! (plus I need ex-strumpets to support me!)

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Hmmmmm...... don't know Allison. I just don't know if these are realistic things. Besides which, I call my girlfriends and then end up complaining to them about whichever guy it is who hasn't called yet...

It's ok to vent your frustration, but try to do it in positive terms. I am doing my best to stick to the rules too- bear in mind this ex-strumpet used to play by a different set of rules and it just wasn't working.

I am going crazy too, believe me! But not as crazy if I were to email him all the time and then ask myself if he thinks I am a needy freak and then worry because I'm not sure if he would have emailed me if I hadn't have emailed him first and so on and on and on...

You know?

Like attracts like so if you and I keep moaning and doing our heads in it's not gonna get any better. I am seeing this as a challenge to strengthen the way I deal with things and when I need to have a vent I am doing my best to chat to my friends in these terms rather than 'oh my god when the hell is he going to contact me - AAARH' my friends can't really make him do anything so I am just doing all I can to be positive about everything in an even annoying way so all that I get back in life HAS to be positive.

It's not at all unrealistic. Unrealistic for me is continuing to do my head in for the rest of my life with worry about someone else! It never made me happy so why continue to do the same old poo poo huh?

Playing in the poo can be dramatic but smelling the roses is sweeter (and often leads to getting bought some!)

I feel your pain- I am screaming inside and willing the next email to come into my inbox but we can help each other through this!!!!!

.... and if you play in poo boys can smell it a mile away!

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Hahaha. Ok. Cool. We can do this Allison. Yes. And we are new to the field... I am wondering how Nat got through some of her tougher times?

Oh and who is this boy you are pining after? Spill. Is it Brisbane Band Boy??

yes it is. One day without contact and I manage to make my head go into mush- it wants to email, to not trust but God damn it I WILL NOT!

You see? I still have temptation but I swear we will follow the rules and do this thing right! I have faith that if I trust that I am worth it and treat myself like I am worth it then others, by example, will do the same.

Ok nattie made a boo- boo and slipped into strumpet mode. Nattie can redeem herself by not calling and leaving him to do some chasing and by putting her profile back up and looking around.

If natties boy wants her exclusively then he needs to show her that he is worthy. It's not bloody hard to send an email to keep things going!!!

So until he gets his bottom into gear then the sassy nattie needs to be on the look out (and so do I) - not that the object of my affection has done anything wrong, I just need to calm down and know that the email will arrive all in good time.

Until then, where are your reletives celeste?? I need to be dating don't I?

:chuckle:

OH YES! I messaged Nick on myspace and this is what I got back...

i dont know i've already got a few babes on my hands and its starting to get stressful

ok i'll check it later

hahaha

you are a clown x

I think in this instance Nick is being a feral naughty boy and perhaps not what you are looking for... I am sorry Allison, I am mortified!!

that's hilarious. No he is NOT what I am interested in at all!!!

Life is looking out for me! I don't need a male hussy on my hands

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have you fung shui ed?? I have a pin up board in my room with all my focus images up and watered the plant in my relationship corner this morning!!

I have another boy emailing me but I can only see it being friendship- but you know what- who knows huh? friends are great and you just don't know what life has in store! The more friends (male or female) that we are in touch with, the less the mind focuses on one person

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Arrrgggghhhh!! It's all so confusing!



What if the very same boy is sitting at home thinking "I really like her but I don't want to seem too keen. God I wish she would call me instead!"? Do boys think that? They must! Forum boys - where are you?!

that's hilarious. No he is NOT what I am interested in at all!!!

Life is looking out for me! I don't need a male hussy on my hands

:chuckle:

That's the right attitude. Although I will monitor him because I still think you 2 would be great... we'll just give him a month or 2 to be single, then he;ll get over it, then if you are still dating maybe we can tee something up then!!!

have you fung shui ed?? I have a pin up board in my room with all my focus images up and watered the plant in my relationship corner this morning!!

I have another boy emailing me but I can only see it being friendship- but you know what- who knows huh? friends are great and you just don't know what life has in store! The more friends (male or female) that we are in touch with, the less the mind focuses on one person

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Nope. I am not a feng shui person. And cannot even work out that spot in my room you mentioned earlier - I think it is the corner where my built-ins are so nothing can go there anyway.

Boys all suck I am going to go to the gym again tonight and watch the news and think about getting a hot body!!! (Which is never going to happen cos I am so lazy but I love dreaming about it...!)

Boys will call if they want to. Once they do the first time and they are met with a warm and happy response then they will WANT to call again.

Encouragement for good things is what is needed here.

I had not heard from the one I am sweet on in a week and I sat on my hands to prevent myself from doing the email or sms thing.

A week later I got a lovely sms explaining that his internet company were being big dorks and it had all messed up and told me when he'd next be online and I gave a lovely response saying that I was really happy to hear from him and has missed his entertaining emails- praise where praise is due.

It is hard but worth it. Boys know they need to do some chasing to get a quality gal!

That's the right attitude. Although I will monitor him because I still think you 2 would be great... we'll just give him a month or 2 to be single, then he;ll get over it, then if you are still dating maybe we can tee something up then!!!

so did he check me out on myspace??:chuckle:

Nope. I am not a feng shui person. And cannot even work out that spot in my room you mentioned earlier - I think it is the corner where my built-ins are so nothing can go there anyway.

Boys all suck I am going to go to the gym again tonight and watch the news and think about getting a hot body!!! (Which is never going to happen cos I am so lazy but I love dreaming about it...!)

ok just stand at the bedroom door and turn your head to the right far corner. If there are robes there then stick a nice picture up or something!

boys don't suck, just the ones we have been attracting with our old strumpet attitidude but we don't do that anymore so the sucky ones vanish real quick and the awesome ones stick around!

If you say boys suck then that's all you'll see!

I am off to the gym too with my gal pal- body pump here I come!

Ok I'm here to defend myself Lady Allison! :chuckle:

First of all, a girls' not a camel you know.. I was in a drought, I needed to drink the water... water has been drunk! I'm good...for the moment!

Second of all - totally agree with letting them do the chasing. I have and do do that.. it took me a while to work it out I must admit, but I got there in the end! The current boy (that I accidently, oops! fell into bed with), did most of the chasing - ignore them and they come running technique - and I'm back doing that now (even though I'm secretly wishing and hoping for a text, call, email, msn chat!!!). :typing:

I think what it is for me is that I just want the same contact again, but now that I've got me head around that I'll leave him be and see what happens - I just might have to vent my frustrations at not hearing from him for a little while longer on here. :whistle:

I'm not putting my profile back up until after my holiday because I don't want to start anything with anyone new when I plan on snogging my way around the UK & Paris - umm hellllo it's Rugby World Cup - there will be boys-a-plenty! There is another contender on the scene from when my profile was up, and we've not yet met up but we are still regularly chatting online and have decided that we'll have a date when I'm back, for reasons mentioned above. Oh and he tells me if we did hit it off and then I jet off o/s he doesn't want to be feeling jealous of me etc! Woohoo! :glee:

Sooooo it does work this whole, ignore and they will come technique, well for me anyway, but of course it does your head in and you need your girlfriends and adorables to keep you sane.

And if that's not for you, then stuff it all and do what feels right for you... you never know, you might find a guy that actuallly likes that you take the lead and ask him out for that next date etc, because lets face it, they do get just as nervous and confused about it all as us.

(climbing down from soapbox now :whistle:)

ok, fair enough. If you want to drink and can deal with the consequences with a right mind then all good.

Sounds like you have the right attitude again to get things on track so YAY!

I think it's great to have this ex-strumpet club to :whipcrack: each other back in line where needed.

This should be empowering rather than painful so let's do our best to make that the case!

(god help me if any suitors read my rants here!)

oooh ex-strumpet club! I like that!!:chuckle:

I think it's good that so many of us are in a similar boat so to speak, and we can bounce our ideas/frustrations off each other. Doesn't necessarily mean you'll take the advice on board but it's good to have a sounding board and fresh opinions... sometimes your g/fs just don't quite see it the way you know a fellow single gal would! :waving:

so did he check me out on myspace??:chuckle:

No idea I haven't spoken to him. But next time I do I will ask... very subtley of course

oooh ex-strumpet club! I like that!!:chuckle:

I think it's good that so many of us are in a similar boat so to speak, and we can bounce our ideas/frustrations off each other. Doesn't necessarily mean you'll take the advice on board but it's good to have a sounding board and fresh opinions... sometimes your g/fs just don't quite see it the way you know a fellow single gal would! :waving:

Too right. I am doing my head in, and my friends heads in too! No I'm not really that bad... :whistle:

I love that these threads are haunted by Allison, Nat, Oz and me in particular...!!! hahaha we really do have a little club going on!!!

I love that these threads are haunted by Allison, Nat, Oz and me in particular...!!! hahaha we really do have a little club going on!!!

ha ha! I know! Fusspot checks in regulary for her fix i've noticed.. so it's all good!!! Are we the only single gals on here or just the only ones game enough to post our dating disasters/achievements ha ha!!

I can set you gals up maybe.

I have an awesome friend in perth who is single he is on my personal myspace page- Dave and also another band mate who is on my myspace under the name of teamash- he's in melbourne.

they would die but as we said it's about referrals and they would LOVE a myspace message from a lovely girl to say hello I am also a friend of lady allison!

check the boys out gals! ( I can PM you any links if you want them) :chuckle:

I can set you gals up maybe.

I have an awesome friend in perth who is single he is on my personal myspace page- Dave and also another band mate who is on my myspace under the name of teamash- he's in melbourne.

they would die but as we said it's about referrals and they would LOVE a myspace message from a lovely girl to say hello I am also a friend of lady allison!

check the boys out gals! ( I can PM you any links if you want them) :chuckle:

I don't have myspace only on the facebook bandwagon! :penguin:

oh you need a myspace- this is how I met the boy!

myspace looks too hard! i'll have to have a looksee though....

it's easy and addictive! Go take the plunge!

ha ha! I know! Fusspot checks in regulary for her fix i've noticed.. so it's all good!!! Are we the only single gals on here or just the only ones game enough to post our dating disasters/achievements ha ha!!


:redcheeks::whistle::waving:;)

I absolutely KNOW that I would become even more stalkified if I had a myspace - I would be stalking boys like there was no tomorrow!!

But on the flipside, I do have a facebook (it's not pimped out, I really have only registered and that's it) and I have received friend requests from a couple of boys from my past and I was like "WHAT THE?!". So I know how weird it is to be 'stalked' in a sense! I must refrain, I must, I must!

I'm seeing "my boy" (read: my obsessive crush) tonight.

I absolutely KNOW that I would become even more stalkified if I had a myspace - I would be stalking boys like there was no tomorrow!!

But on the flipside, I do have a facebook (it's not pimped out, I really have only registered and that's it) and I have received friend requests from a couple of boys from my past and I was like "WHAT THE?!". So I know how weird it is to be 'stalked' in a sense! I must refrain, I must, I must!

I'm seeing "my boy" (read: my obsessive crush) tonight.


ooo one on one ???:penguin: :glee:

Hope it goes (is going?) well ozzy. Full report expected immediately when you get home.

OK.
No fussy, it wasn't one on one, it was our regular Tuesday trivia night. Along with the two other members of the team, he also brought his uncle, auntie and grandma who are visiting! It was actually a really fun night despite the fact that I was at the complete other end of the table from the boy - but I was right next to his grandma, getting in good with her and having a good old chat! OK.....last week I promised myself that I was going to relinquish crush-like feelings.....so I really tried not to read into anything. But it's good that I at least have a fun mate even if he never bloody asks me out.

Bugger. Sounds like you had fun though... and getting in with the rellies is a good move hehe. His grandmother will call him and say 'now how is that lovely young Ozlicious going...?!'

oh poo i didn't realise it iwas tuesday trivia night - sorry i got all excited:whistle:

Celeste! Update ASAP please missy!!!
:typing:

What's happened - anything? It's now what, Thursday, so you are totally able to text the date/s if you want to just to suss them out I reckon!

Meanwhile... I haven't heard from miner boy since the online chat on Sunday night when he told me about the no telstra reception... so have decided for now he's telling the truth and if I don't hear from him when he's back in range this time next week well watch our MR there will be trouble! with a capital T! (well not really but I feel better for saying it!) :chuckle:

That is too funny Nat... cos I just made a phone call and quickly logged on here to tell you!!!

Well... first I need to set the scene. I left work at lunchtime today to go to the physio, then decided not to go back cos I really need to rest my back and get away from the computer screen for a while. So I got home and then remembered I am meant to go to the movies with my girlfriend tonight. So I called her to see if she was still up for it or not and she cancelled... and I remembered that my #1 boy had suggested we do something tonight!! So I called him. And he answered with 'Hi darling!' - he's in the music industry and called me darling after 5 minutes of meeting him and I KNOW it is not reserved for me... but I still like it! Anyway so I just said that my friend had cancelled tonight's plans, so if he was still interested in doing something low-key tonight then I was up for it. And he said he would love to, that he will cancel his plans and pick me up and take me out for dinner!! So I am happy about that and now I just need to have dinner with him and see if I am still keen!! Hahaha.

Hope you hear from Miner Boy Nat.

I'm excited now, I might have a bath and pamper myself a bit. Then watch the Bold of course... best thing about having an afternoon off work!!!

That is too funny Nat... cos I just made a phone call and quickly logged on here to tell you!!!

Well... first I need to set the scene. I left work at lunchtime today to go to the physio, then decided not to go back cos I really need to rest my back and get away from the computer screen for a while. So I got home and then remembered I am meant to go to the movies with my girlfriend tonight. So I called her to see if she was still up for it or not and she cancelled... and I remembered that my #1 boy had suggested we do something tonight!! So I called him. And he answered with 'Hi darling!' - he's in the music industry and called me darling after 5 minutes of meeting him and I KNOW it is not reserved for me... but I still like it! Anyway so I just said that my friend had cancelled tonight's plans, so if he was still interested in doing something low-key tonight then I was up for it. And he said he would love to, that he will cancel his plans and pick me up and take me out for dinner!! So I am happy about that and now I just need to have dinner with him and see if I am still keen!! Hahaha.

Hope you hear from Miner Boy Nat.

I'm excited now, I might have a bath and pamper myself a bit. Then watch the Bold of course... best thing about having an afternoon off work!!!

That's awesome!! What a fab day for you, Celeste!

Thanks Ozzy. Just got out of the bath and I feel relaxed and excited. Eeeee!!! I used Cake Deserted Island bubble bath and body lotion... hope I don't smell too cakey!! Hehe... although on the flip side maybe I will smell so tasty he'll want more...!!!

Thanks Ozzy. Just got out of the bath and I feel relaxed and excited. Eeeee!!! I used Cake Deserted Island bubble bath and body lotion... hope I don't smell too cakey!! Hehe... although on the flip side maybe I will smell so tasty he'll want more...!!!

Oooh I'm so happy and excited for you!

Thanks hun. Will report back tomorrow!

Thanks Ozzy. Just got out of the bath and I feel relaxed and excited. Eeeee!!! I used Cake Deserted Island bubble bath and body lotion... hope I don't smell too cakey!! Hehe... although on the flip side maybe I will smell so tasty he'll want more...!!!

haha you minx you! ;)

that sounds so exciting... nothing like last minute plans! at least you can't get all nervous etc!! look forward to your report tomorrow!! :clapping:

EEEE!! I am smiling like a Cheshire cat!!!

OK so the date was a huge success! I am sooooo pleased. He came to pick me up, and then we walked to a local Thai restaurant. Conversation flowed and he was telling me more about his crazy family. His cousin is the burnout champion of Australia. Hahahahaha. Then after a nice dinner we went back to my place and sat on the couch with a glass of wine and kept chatting. I was also verrrrry bold. On the walk home I made a joke about being glad I called him because who knows if I would have heard from him otherwise... and he said he was actually going to call me on Friday because I had said I was busy all week. Ooops. And I told him I had been nervous about calling and he loved it!

Then just before 11 he said it was time to let me go to bed. So we went into the kitchen and put our wine glasses down, and were flirting madly and then we were kissing and it was so fantastic! He said he wants to take things slow which I think is a good sign... and also that he wants me to come and sit in the DJ box with him when he does some recovery sessions so I can entertain him and see what he does! Sooooo cute. Eeeee I am smitten! Oh and he is VERY cute!!!! xxxxxx

EEEE!! I am smiling like a Cheshire cat!!!

OK so the date was a huge success! I am sooooo pleased. He came to pick me up, and then we walked to a local Thai restaurant. Conversation flowed and he was telling me more about his crazy family. His cousin is the burnout champion of Australia. Hahahahaha. Then after a nice dinner we went back to my place and sat on the couch with a glass of wine and kept chatting. I was also verrrrry bold. On the walk home I made a joke about being glad I called him because who knows if I would have heard from him otherwise... and he said he was actually going to call me on Friday because I had said I was busy all week. Ooops. And I told him I had been nervous about calling and he loved it!

Then just before 11 he said it was time to let me go to bed. So we went into the kitchen and put our wine glasses down, and were flirting madly and then we were kissing and it was so fantastic! He said he wants to take things slow which I think is a good sign... and also that he wants me to come and sit in the DJ box with him when he does some recovery sessions so I can entertain him and see what he does! Sooooo cute. Eeeee I am smitten! Oh and he is VERY cute!!!! xxxxxx

Oh. My. God. Celeste that is awesome!! You total she-minx, you! I'm so happy for you, sounds like a completely awesome date!

Oh. My. God. Celeste that is awesome!! You total she-minx, you! I'm so happy for you, sounds like a completely awesome date!

Thanks hun... I am so thrilled. Does it give you any ammunition to ask your boy out? Although I do understand it is harder for you as he is a friend already... but still... I am so glad I bit the bullet and called him, despite The Rules. Look how well it turned out!!

Oh and he has a website cos of his DJing... if you want to see him, PM me!! hehe. Is that really bad?!!

Oh and he has a website cos of his DJing... if you want to see him, PM me!! hehe. Is that really bad?!!

Of course!! PM it on over to me!

And yeah....I guess I will think a little bit more about giving my boy a call...maybe!....

Of course!! PM it on over to me!

And yeah....I guess I will think a little bit more about giving my boy a call...maybe!....

I PMed you. Let me know what you think!

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Celeste so happy for you! he sounds fantastic!!

PM me too!!! I want to check it all out!! ha ha!!!

Sounds like a good idea to take it slow... you can get to know each other better etc etc... although, not sure how slow you are taking it with the smooches in the kitchen! OMG!!! I'm sitting here with a big grin on my face for you - so v happy for you!!!

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Thanks Nat! I am now Officially trying to get a grip and stop thinking about it. But then I have a flash back and remember something from last night and get all giggly!

Come on, a pash on date 2 is ok isn't it, in the Taking it Slow stakes? Hand resting on lower back/hip?

Oh and I PMed you too... I feel sooooo silly, imagine if he found out?! I would DIE!!! xxx

Pash on date 2 is DEFINATELY okay.

Thanks Nat! I am now Officially trying to get a grip and stop thinking about it. But then I have a flash back and remember something from last night and get all giggly!

Come on, a pash on date 2 is ok isn't it, in the Taking it Slow stakes? Hand resting on lower back/hip?

Oh and I PMed you too... I feel sooooo silly, imagine if he found out?! I would DIE!!! xxx

Welcome to the Living In Constant Fear That Your Crush Will Find Out You Have Been Stalking Him club!

Welcome to the Living In Constant Fear That Your Crush Will Find Out You Have Been Stalking Him club!

I don't care if he knows I have been stalking him.... I care if he finds out ALL of my friends have been stalking him too!!! Hahaha

ha ha pash on second date is OK for sure - well i did it! ha ha! we're all strumpets!!

then we alllll know what i got up to on the 4th date!! umar!! :redcheeks::chuckle:

ha ha pash on second date is OK for sure - well i did it! ha ha! we're all strumpets!!

then we alllll know what i got up to on the 4th date!! umar!! :redcheeks::chuckle:

Haha, you sond just like me. I pashed my current man on the 1st 'date', and it wasn't even a date really :redcheeks:. We tried to 'go slow' as well, but it didn't work :chuckle:!

ha ha pash on second date is OK for sure - well i did it! ha ha! we're all strumpets!!

then we alllll know what i got up to on the 4th date!! umar!! :redcheeks::chuckle:

Ahhh so that was the 4th date?!! I think you did well Nattie... in my past life, 4 dates was a long wait! Hehe, damn getting older and feeling slutty for having sex with relatively random people. Just when does the guilt set in?!

Haha, you sond just like me. I pashed my current man on the 1st 'date', and it wasn't even a date really :redcheeks:. We tried to 'go slow' as well, but it didn't work :chuckle:!

hey if the 'zsa zsa zsu' is there then don't fight it i say!!! lady allison is going to read this and want to smack us all for being strumpets! :chuckle::redcheeks::whistle:

Ahhh so that was the 4th date?!! I think you did well Nattie... in my past life, 4 dates was a long wait! Hehe, damn getting older and feeling slutty for having sex with relatively random people. Just when does the guilt set in?!

Guilt has set in cause of him working out at bloody whoop whoop and me not hearing from him!!! BUT i had fun and the drought was broken so it's all good either way.....

Actually I reckon that sex on the first, second, third, fourth or fifth date is perfectly fine if you're not really seriously into the guy. If you're really into him (like if it has reached serious crush status) there's more at stake and you have more to lose, therefore perhaps best to reign it in a little bit.....but if you're cold-dating and don't really know each other that well (and you therefore have no existing links and nothing really to lose) then you should totally do it if it's what you feel like! Girl's gotta have what a girl's gotta have!

Actually I reckon that sex on the first, second, third, fourth or fifth date is perfectly fine if you're not really seriously into the guy. If you're really into him (like if it has reached serious crush status) there's more at stake and you have more to lose, therefore perhaps best to reign it in a little bit.....but if you're cold-dating and don't really know each other that well (and you therefore have no existing links and nothing really to lose) then you should totally do it if it's what you feel like! Girl's gotta have what a girl's gotta have!

I was seriously in to my boy!! Hahaha. I just couldn't resist!

Actually I reckon that sex on the first, second, third, fourth or fifth date is perfectly fine if you're not really seriously into the guy. If you're really into him (like if it has reached serious crush status) there's more at stake and you have more to lose, therefore perhaps best to reign it in a little bit.....but if you're cold-dating and don't really know each other that well (and you therefore have no existing links and nothing really to lose) then you should totally do it if it's what you feel like! Girl's gotta have what a girl's gotta have!

he he have to say i agree there! can't fight it sometimes! :whistle:

well i've been stalking the boy through rsvp (to see when he last logged in etc)

and looky looky here - he's logged in right now!! and not logged into msn so we can't chat! hhmmm starting to think it's a load of hogwash this 'no reception out at the mines' stuff! :shakehead:

ahhh well i guess i'll know for sure what he's playing at next week when he should be back in town..

meanwhile, heading out on the town tomorrow night with my gal pal - look out! :chuckle::glee:

I decided while I was in the shower earlier to call the boy tomorrow and see if he wants to have an afternoon coffee at the beach. On our "not-a-date" I mentioned that I loved hanging out at the beach but often you can't call someone spontaneously to come with you, and he said these words: "well next time you're going down there, send me a text". But I don't know if he really meant it. I also don't know whether he will be free tomorrow, because I COULD NOT COPE if I got an "Sorry mate, have plans this afternoon. Have fun at the beach though!" text back. It would just be entirely too depressing. He also asked on Tuesday night if anyone was going to the races on Saturday, and we all said no, and he said he wasn't either, but it leads me to believe that he was interested in going or at least thinking about it, which means he quite possibly has changed his mind and now IS going to the races, which will mean he won't be free, which will mean I will get the dreaded refusal text. So now I've decided not to bother asking.

I decided while I was in the shower earlier to call the boy tomorrow and see if he wants to have an afternoon coffee at the beach. On our "not-a-date" I mentioned that I loved hanging out at the beach but often you can't call someone spontaneously to come with you, and he said these words: "well next time you're going down there, send me a text". But I don't know if he really meant it. I also don't know whether he will be free tomorrow, because I COULD NOT COPE if I got an "Sorry mate, have plans this afternoon. Have fun at the beach though!" text back. It would just be entirely too depressing. He also asked on Tuesday night if anyone was going to the races on Saturday, and we all said no, and he said he wasn't either, but it leads me to believe that he was interested in going or at least thinking about it, which means he quite possibly has changed his mind and now IS going to the races, which will mean he won't be free, which will mean I will get the dreaded refusal text. So now I've decided not to bother asking.

wow! had to read that twice to make sure i understood! i think you should call and do that 'so what are you doing tomorrow' then you'll get the 'nothing' or 'going to the races, do you want to come' and you have an 'in' on both counts... nothing to lose!!!

wow! had to read that twice to make sure i understood! i think you should call and do that 'so what are you doing tomorrow' then you'll get the 'nothing' or 'going to the races, do you want to come' and you have an 'in' on both counts... nothing to lose!!!

Noooo, can't do that, we're so not close enough to warrant a no-reason "what are you doing tomorrow" call! It has to be like a spur-of-the-moment, "hey I was just hanging out and it only just occurred to me that you might want to swing by" kind of thing, not like "I've been spending all friday night wondering if you might want to do something tomorrow"!

Nattie did you send a message to miner boy on RSVP or anything? Maybe a casual email would do the trick...

nope - simply cause my profile is still hidden.

am contemplating sending an offline msg through MSN... but then i also think - he knows how to contact me so he can!

sorry i'm having that whole - should i, shouldn't i conversation with myself! i promised myself i wouldn't do this... and i honestly don't care if that's it for us now... but i want to KNOW!! ha ha!! :chuckle: (and i might be keen to hook up again next weekend, maybe :whistle::redcheeks:)

or i might just not do anything tonight and hash it out with my gal pal tomorrow and then tomorrow night when i'm drunk 'accidently' send him a flirty text.. he'll either get it now or he'll get it when he's in 'range'.... bloody men!


what have you decided re your boy??

Noooo, can't do that, we're so not close enough to warrant a no-reason "what are you doing tomorrow" call! It has to be like a spur-of-the-moment, "hey I was just hanging out and it only just occurred to me that you might want to swing by" kind of thing, not like "I've been spending all friday night wondering if you might want to do something tomorrow"!

LOL here - we're as bad as each other!

hmmm maybe you could call tomorrow, mid-morning... you can start saying the what are you doing and he'll prob tell you anyway and then you can back peddle if need be! ;)

nope - simply cause my profile is still hidden.

am contemplating sending an offline msg through MSN... but then i also think - he knows how to contact me so he can!

sorry i'm having that whole - should i, shouldn't i conversation with myself! i promised myself i wouldn't do this... and i honestly don't care if that's it for us now... but i want to KNOW!! ha ha!! :chuckle: (and i might be keen to hook up again next weekend, maybe :whistle::redcheeks:)

or i might just not do anything tonight and hash it out with my gal pal tomorrow and then tomorrow night when i'm drunk 'accidently' send him a flirty text.. he'll either get it now or he'll get it when he's in 'range'.... bloody men!


what have you decided re your boy??

Ahhh yes, the drunken text! Always good! I've even sent fake drunk texts before (you have to mess it up oh-so-perfectly but not too much) and (sad of sads) fake "accidental" texts - like, I will send a text that says something like "Hey, just realised you left your jumper at my house. Will drop it round when I see u tomorrow". Not only does he realise you have quite the active social life (what with people undressing at your house willy-nilly), but he sees that you are a nice enough person to notify people when they have left things. So you send it off to him and then a few seconds later you send another message that says "Sorry, ignore the last message, sent it to the wrong person!". Then HE sends one back along the lines of "that's cool, hope the jumper finds its rightful owner" and then you have an IN to a text-conversation!

Yes, I've done this. Yes, it's pathetic and desperate. And, to all you smarty-pantses out there, yes, it produced results!

OK here's what I'm thinking. I have to take my dog to get groomed in the morning. After all that grooming, he deserves a walk at the beach, right? And while I'm at the beach, I'll perhaps casually grab a coffee, and while I'm there, I'll remember that so-and-so said to send him a text if I was ever hangin at the beach. Which I am. So this is all good if he says yes. If he says yes I'm set. If he says no, I'll feel like a right idiot because I won't be able to explain that I just HAPPENED to be there with the dog and it was all a spontaneous, no-big-deal thing. He might think that it was a big planned-out thing and that I am desperately hot for him. And if he's not desperately hot for me, he'll think I'm a loser for asking him to the beach when he (and most other non-losers) had plans.

Edit: I might add that about three weeks ago I sent him an ever so casual text saying that I was a the pub with a friend if he wanted to drop by for a drink. He replied (word for word, I kept the text and am copying it verbatim here) "Soz mate just finished gym and am going to see my house mate play in some classical group. Thanks for the invite, definitely next time!". The "mate" and the refusal, plus the token "definitely next time" lead me to believe that I am quite firmly in friend territory and would be hugely pushing my luck with another invitation. TBA calls him "Mr Mate"!!

hmmm ok now that i've read the edit i think you might be right... I can't imagine he'd think you a loser for going to the beach and just happening to ask him, I mean that's just you being spontaneous and all.. right?

I think you need to go with your gut feeling on this chicky... and remember he's a guy so he probably will need you to sit him down and tell him you're desperately hot for him before he knows this to be the case so I think you'd be safe there!

and yes... i too have done the accidental texts on purpose as well as the drunken when not drunk at all texts.. and yes i agree, the can and do work in your favour! and you always have an out! i use the 'sorry blonde moment' for that too! :chuckle:

hey oz , yes well yor edit is very interesting , nattie is right go completely with your gut on this one , don't 2nd guess yourself
did u read my "story" in the other thread , makes sense to what u have been saying :hugs:

LOL fusspot I don't know if you're trying to encourage me to ask him or scare the wits out of me! I think the latter!

LOL fusspot I don't know if you're trying to encourage me to ask him or scare the wits out of me! I think the latter!


wondered if i made sense , i have a splitting headache & am REALLY far behind in my posts :explode:

i think just go with what u think initially , so u were worried about the whole beach thing , so don't do it

why r men such hard work :yawn: it only gets more "interesting" with marriage as well

wondered if i made sense , i have a splitting headache & am REALLY far behind in my posts :explode:

i think just go with what u think initially , so u were worried about the whole beach thing , so don't do it

why r men such hard work :yawn: it only gets more "interesting" with marriage as well

Yeah I think you're right, I think I'll head to the beach and enjoy myself rather than stress through the roof about whether or not to call him!

Hey Oz, what advice do you need exactly?

you little strumpets!!!! :whipcrack:

smack, smack, smack!!!!

I have been a good lass and have reaped the rewards. It kills me, but I wait and I get the response I want plus more.

If you want details PM me, I can't say too much in here because it's such a public forum and those in my social sphere know I write...

but in holding off on chasing and encouraging when I am contacted things are in a lovely place I think... we'll see.

I ended up on a date that I didn't realise was a date with someone in the mean time which was very sweet. That's all I can say in these parts for now....

I am being a very good girl and feeling incredibly empowered as a result. No bullshit and flaffing around at all. It is tragic waiting for the next point of contact, but it always comes and I feel really good about startinig in an honest and open place. I am being treated with tons of respect because people notice it in yourself and in turn treat you as you treat yourself.

ok little strumpets let me know and I shall pull you into line if you feel you need it!

OK Allison, you won't like this.....but......

When I was at the beach I decided I'd text him and see if he wanted to grab a coffee. It was an agonised decision but I decided to bite the bullet (I actually closed my eyes and sort of let out a little squeal as I pressed "send"!!). He replied that he was sorry but he couldn't make it (at which point I nearly cried) but he was thinking of going up to Paluma (a mountainy/rainforesty place) tomorrow and did I want to come? Yippee!! I said I thought I could probably make it, so he's picking me up at 9:30 - he said, and I quote, "gonna make a day of it". Sooooo....yeah! It's good!! It's still not a "date", we're still firmly in friends territory, but who knows? This could possibly clear things up (or possibly not, LOL). It will be the first time we have spent a long period of time together sans alcohol, so it should be interesting in any case.

I'm so excited! And I just can't hide it! I'm so glad no-one else is at home now so I can dance around like an idiot and I think I like it!

OK Allison, you won't like this.....but......

When I was at the beach I decided I'd text him and see if he wanted to grab a coffee. It was an agonised decision but I decided to bite the bullet (I actually closed my eyes and sort of let out a little squeal as I pressed "send"!!). He replied that he was sorry but he couldn't make it (at which point I nearly cried) but he was thinking of going up to Paluma (a mountainy/rainforesty place) tomorrow and did I want to come? Yippee!! I said I thought I could probably make it, so he's picking me up at 9:30 - he said, and I quote, "gonna make a day of it". Sooooo....yeah! It's good!! It's still not a "date", we're still firmly in friends territory, but who knows? This could possibly clear things up (or possibly not, LOL). It will be the first time we have spent a long period of time together sans alcohol, so it should be interesting in any case.

I'm so excited! And I just can't hide it! I'm so glad no-one else is at home now so I can dance around like an idiot and I think I like it!




YEAH Ozzy YAY :glee::glee::glee: u go girl

YEAH Ozzy YAY :glee::glee::glee: u go girl

Thanks fussy!! I really kept your advice in mind, I did, but I made the message oh-so-casual so it couldn't really be interpreted as any "date" type thing....so no one can be left feeling uncomfortable (hopefully)! His messages were really casual too, so yeah...we'll see....:penguin:

Thanks fussy!! I really kept your advice in mind, I did, but I made the message oh-so-casual so it couldn't really be interpreted as any "date" type thing....so no one can be left feeling uncomfortable (hopefully)! His messages were really casual too, so yeah...we'll see....:penguin:



u know what though , u went with your gut , right there right then that is what your heart/ gut was saying , & i think that is the best thing to do , go for what u think right then
& u did YAY :penguin:

u know what though , u went with your gut , right there right then that is what your heart/ gut was saying , & i think that is the best thing to do , go for what u think right then
& u did YAY :penguin:

I completely agree!!! I'm a real believer in gut feelings, instincts, and even signs and omens. I won't go too into it, but I have this system where I let the next song to come on the radio help me to make a decision, and I tell you, it rarely steers me wrong! I think it lets me access my real instinct about something. Anyway I decided to use that system this morning, and the next song was "Shiny Happy People" by REM. You know the one, "shiny happy people holding hands..." lol but then I also remember that the boy told me he hates REM, so I was almost at a bit of a crossroads....but I decided it was leading me in the right direction! And it (sorta) was!

I completely agree!!! I'm a real believer in gut feelings, instincts, and even signs and omens. I won't go too into it, but I have this system where I let the next song to come on the radio help me to make a decision, and I tell you, it rarely steers me wrong! I think it lets me access my real instinct about something. Anyway I decided to use that system this morning, and the next song was "Shiny Happy People" by REM. You know the one, "shiny happy people holding hands..." lol but then I also remember that the boy told me he hates REM, so I was almost at a bit of a crossroads....but I decided it was leading me in the right direction! And it (sorta) was!


oh wow i love that song ,
i try to "tap" into myself like that too , i think it really helps, makes things less confusing , i am such an over thinker/ exaggerator anyway :whistle:

:penguin: yay ozi!!!! looking forward to a full report this evening missy!!! :typing:

i agree that the best thing to do is go with your gut... if you want to do it, do it - then you never get a case of the 'what-ifs'.

i sent a msg to the boy last night too... no reply, which could actually mean he's telling the truth and has no reception out in whoop whoop... so it'll be interesting to see if i get a reply later this week... and i went with my instincts on sending that too... i kept thinking about it for a couple of days so decided it was the right move for me!

you little strumpets!!!! :whipcrack:

smack, smack, smack!!!!

I have been a good lass and have reaped the rewards. It kills me, but I wait and I get the response I want plus more.

If you want details PM me, I can't say too much in here because it's such a public forum and those in my social sphere know I write...

but in holding off on chasing and encouraging when I am contacted things are in a lovely place I think... we'll see.

I ended up on a date that I didn't realise was a date with someone in the mean time which was very sweet. That's all I can say in these parts for now....

I am being a very good girl and feeling incredibly empowered as a result. No bullshit and flaffing around at all. It is tragic waiting for the next point of contact, but it always comes and I feel really good about startinig in an honest and open place. I am being treated with tons of respect because people notice it in yourself and in turn treat you as you treat yourself.

ok little strumpets let me know and I shall pull you into line if you feel you need it!

Allison, you are one hilarious lady! But congratulations on your surprise date - that sounds beautiful. It really warms my heart :)

Now for you Ozzy - how did Paluma go? Might I also say that you are the biggest text-harlot I have ever met!!

Text-harlot!! Haha! Well I do like my texts, I'll grant you that.

OK, today!! Well, nothing happened :( So you can stop wondering right now. BUT it was still an awesome day. We basically drove up the mountain and then did a few rainforest walks. He's not from around here and wanted to see the area and take photos so that's pretty much the reason we went. Anyway we went on this one walk just to "have a look" but it kept going and going and going, it was frickin ridiculous. It was all up and down hills too (well it was on the side of a mountain). I was so puffed and red, it was sort of embarassing really! He gave me plenty of crap about it too. So anyway yeah, we drove up there, had lunch, went for a couple of walks, got semi-lost, took lots of photos and then came home. But as we were struggling back on the long ridiculous walk he offered to make me dinner in return for coming with him! So he dropped me home, I had a shower and changed, and went over to his house and he cooked dinner and we watched Ugly Betty and Greys Anatomy lol (I taped Big Love, don't worry!). His housemate came home about halfway through and I met him for the first time too, and he was nice. It was a great day!

But I fear the window for a relationship has closed or is closing fast. And I really really like him. But I don't want to ruin the friendship - this one's a keeper! Ahhh the dilemma.

God, I can't believe no one has commented on my day!! GOSSHH.

God, I can't believe no one has commented on my day!! GOSSHH.

Your day sounds like a fantastic day.:chuckle:

Hehe, I'm glad you got somewhere, seems like he really cares about you, and he sounds like a really nice guy! Go Oz!

God, I can't believe no one has commented on my day!! GOSSHH.

ha ha! sorry i've been busy with work this morning - how rude!

hmm he sorta sounds keen to hang out with you and stuff so maybe he's also not sure how you feel?? are you touchy feely with him? you know, when you laugh at something do you touch him on the arm or something? maybe he needs a few hints like that??

or i guess you have to decide if you are willing to say something to him and possibly have a bit of an awkward moment.. or do you think you could maybe get past that if he does just want to be friends???

gosh so hard to know!!!!!!!:shakehead:

Text-harlot!! Haha! Well I do like my texts, I'll grant you that.

OK, today!! Well, nothing happened :( So you can stop wondering right now. BUT it was still an awesome day. We basically drove up the mountain and then did a few rainforest walks. He's not from around here and wanted to see the area and take photos so that's pretty much the reason we went. Anyway we went on this one walk just to "have a look" but it kept going and going and going, it was frickin ridiculous. It was all up and down hills too (well it was on the side of a mountain). I was so puffed and red, it was sort of embarassing really! He gave me plenty of crap about it too. So anyway yeah, we drove up there, had lunch, went for a couple of walks, got semi-lost, took lots of photos and then came home. But as we were struggling back on the long ridiculous walk he offered to make me dinner in return for coming with him! So he dropped me home, I had a shower and changed, and went over to his house and he cooked dinner and we watched Ugly Betty and Greys Anatomy lol (I taped Big Love, don't worry!). His housemate came home about halfway through and I met him for the first time too, and he was nice. It was a great day!

But I fear the window for a relationship has closed or is closing fast. And I really really like him. But I don't want to ruin the friendship - this one's a keeper! Ahhh the dilemma.



sorry i didn't get on properly until now , sounds like a great day , i think if things will happen they will just flow , unfortunately u could be friends fir years b4 anything happens but like u said it may muck it up , but that really was one huge day & he obviously wanted it to keep going hence dinner

hey just a thought , what if he is thinking exactly what u r thinking ?? about not knowing if u liked him & he didn't want to risk the friendship ? sound familiar - ok fusspot not helping here:whistle:

hey just a thought , what if he is thinking exactly what u r thinking ?? about not knowing if u liked him & he didn't want to risk the friendship ? sound familiar - ok fusspot not helping here:whistle:

you said what i said! i'm starting to think that might be the case!!!!! :glee:

Text-harlot!! Haha! Well I do like my texts, I'll grant you that.

OK, today!! Well, nothing happened :( So you can stop wondering right now. BUT it was still an awesome day. We basically drove up the mountain and then did a few rainforest walks. He's not from around here and wanted to see the area and take photos so that's pretty much the reason we went. Anyway we went on this one walk just to "have a look" but it kept going and going and going, it was frickin ridiculous. It was all up and down hills too (well it was on the side of a mountain). I was so puffed and red, it was sort of embarassing really! He gave me plenty of crap about it too. So anyway yeah, we drove up there, had lunch, went for a couple of walks, got semi-lost, took lots of photos and then came home. But as we were struggling back on the long ridiculous walk he offered to make me dinner in return for coming with him! So he dropped me home, I had a shower and changed, and went over to his house and he cooked dinner and we watched Ugly Betty and Greys Anatomy lol (I taped Big Love, don't worry!). His housemate came home about halfway through and I met him for the first time too, and he was nice. It was a great day!

But I fear the window for a relationship has closed or is closing fast. And I really really like him. But I don't want to ruin the friendship - this one's a keeper! Ahhh the dilemma.

Why is the door closing? Are you afraid you have been platonic for so long that neither of you will try anything more?

Maybe…maybe you can orchestrate for one of your friends to ‘casually’ or ‘jokingly’ ask one of his good friends (or the housemate?) if he is keen on you. Are there any mutual friends that can do this?

Conversation sample:

Ozzy’s friend: ‘Hey, Ozzy and boy have been hanging out a lot lately, you think anything’s going on there?’

Boy’s friend: ‘I don’t think anything’s going on between them; he hasn’t said anything to me, anyway.’

Ozzy’s friend: ‘Do you think he’s into her or something?’

Boy’s friend: (response pending actual conversation taking place).

What do you think, Ozzy? Casual enough? :chuckle:

Hahaha!!!
I :hearts: :hearts: :hearts: :hearts: :hearts: you girls soooo much!
It has definitely occurred to me that he is maybe feeling exactly the same as me. We were talking about that online thing that was going around in high school where you enter your crush's name and if your crush enters your name then it tells both people that they like each other. He said he never did it because even if it showed that he and his crush liked each other, then he would have to do something about it and that was scary. But I don't know if he was talking about his teenage self or his 'now' self.....!!..... and I hardly think that is concrete evidence on which to base a decision! :chuckle:

Sapphy, your idea is an awesome one except I don't really know if I would trust a friend enough to reveal my feelings just yet....the only mutual girl friend we both have (ok the deal, in case I haven't explained it, is that the boy "Bob" is good friends and workmates with "Donny". I went to school and am still great friends with Donny's girlfriend "Coco". But I'm also friends with Donny too.), Coco, takes things a bit too seriously and wouldn't just casually suss it out for me - she would take it as meaning that I wanted to marry him and have his babies and then she would do everything in her power to get us together. I'm not quite ready for that level of interference yet!

I think we all know what needs to be done - we need to get absolutely ratarse drunk together.

Do you think I should start a new "Ozzy's Crush Thread" and get out of Allison's one? :chuckle:

[QUOTE=Ozlicious;35960]

Sapphy, your idea is an awesome one except I don't really know if I would trust a friend enough to reveal my feelings just yet....the only mutual girl friend we both have (ok the deal, in case I haven't explained it, is that the boy "Bob" is good friends and workmates with "Donny". I went to school and am still great friends with Donny's girlfriend "Coco". But I'm also friends with Donny too.), Coco, takes things a bit too seriously and wouldn't just casually suss it out for me - she would take it as meaning that I wanted to marry him and have his babies and then she would do everything in her power to get us together. I'm not quite ready for that level of interference yet! QUOTE]

Ok, how about you don't tell Coco how you feel, but you tell her you may think he has feelings for you but you aren't sure. That way you are not divulging your own emotions, but expressing confision and/or curiosity as to his intentions. Is Coco trustworthy? Could she gently suss this out for you without blatantly saying 'Ozzy thinks boy is in love with her'? Because that would not be good.

Ok, how about you don't tell Coco how you feel, but you tell her you may think he has feelings for you but you aren't sure. That way you are not divulging your own emotions, but expressing confision and/or curiosity as to his intentions. Is Coco trustworthy? Could she gently suss this out for you without blatantly saying 'Ozzy thinks boy is in love with her'? Because that would not be good.

Oooh you're a smart one. My only problem with that is that she tells her boyfriend BLOODY EVERYTHING and I don't trust him not to blab to Bob "Ozzy thinks you like her - do you?". That would just be far too embarassing to cope with! But ok, here's the thing - Coco has been wanting us to get together from the very beginning (the first time we met she had almost set it up as a date type thing - and I was ****** off at her, can you imagine! LOL) and sometimes she drops hints but I kind of ignore them or roll my eyes at her. Maybe next time she drops a hint I'll say something like "Ok, what's the deal with all the hint dropping? Why do you think we should hook up?". And if she says something like "It just seems like you really like each other!" then maybe I'll let her suss it out a little bit. But I really REALLY don't want her talking to her boyfriend about it, and I know she will. THIS IS SECRET WOMENS' BUSINESS, DAMMIT.

I think we all know what needs to be done - we need to get absolutely ratarse drunk together.

YES!!!!

That's exactly what you need to do!!

Even if you could somehow suggest grabbing some dinner before your next quiz night or something, and having a few wines with dinner... that might help relax the situation a bit!

I'd hold off on speaking to Coco about it... she sounds like my friends, they mean well but they get so excited that you might be interested in someone that they can sorta ruin it all.... could be something to do down the track if things don't progress much further?

[QUOTE=Ozlicious;35968]"Ok, what's the deal with all the hint dropping? Why do you think we should hook up?". QUOTE]

I really like this idea as a conversation-starter. You could subtly rephrase it to ask: Ok, what's the deal with all the hint dropping? Does he have a thing for me or something?'

I also like the idea of you both needing to get drunk together; there is nothing like a 'happy' night to get the honesty and love juices flowing! I would never have kissed my now fiance if it wasn'f for a few too many beers in what was then the Punters Club in Fitzroy. Or maybe I would have, but it would have been eons later, lol!

Yep, we are Aussies after all, and that means that drinking solves everything!!

Dinner/drinks before trivia probably won't work because we drive there and we're both pretty cautious about not drink driving....hmmm I have to put some thought into it...

Hey gals,

god I am away for a few days and look at what I miss!!!

wow!

I need to re-read all these posts to catch up. I apologise for not being as involved in the day to day events! :worship:

boys are not completely stupid, they will make a move or, if the prospect of romance is alluded to then, they will usually pick up on it and flirt. If this is happening then it's good. If it's not then you are allowed one last attempt- share a bottle of wine and try a touch of alluding to the topic in a very lady like self respecting and dignified way and see...

NO throwing yourselves at the boys you little strumpets! It is not dignified or empowering (alas - you never listen to me!) :whipcrack:

My very good behavior now has the object of my affections being very open about our impending meeting and he 'really likes' me. I get sweet emails when I am crabby and small reassurances that he's there. It's all very sweet and gentlemanly and lady like, with of course, a completely retarded sense of humour thown in from both parties.

I am a good ex-strumpet and good things come to good ex-strumpets.

:kissing:

Ozzy how did I miss all this excitement? He is SO into you. I used to have a massive crush on this guy, and we were sort of friends like you two, with mutual friends etc. We started kissing and hanging out a bit but not much and he would never call. I ran into him on NYE a few years ago, and we kissed and he came and slept over but no sex... then we went to his place on new years day so he could get changed and we went to the beach for the day. I gave up on him soon after cos I was in love and he acted really nonchalant. AND THEN a year later I ran into him and he told me that I 'had him' and he had really liked me since that day at the beach (!) but he thought I was not interested. And so nothing ever happened. JUST GO FOR IT!!! Seriously even if he is not interested (which he will be) you will only be embarrassed for a few days and he will be soooo flattered. It's better to know.

Ozzy how did I miss all this excitement? He is SO into you. I used to have a massive crush on this guy, and we were sort of friends like you two, with mutual friends etc. We started kissing and hanging out a bit but not much and he would never call. I ran into him on NYE a few years ago, and we kissed and he came and slept over but no sex... then we went to his place on new years day so he could get changed and we went to the beach for the day. I gave up on him soon after cos I was in love and he acted really nonchalant. AND THEN a year later I ran into him and he told me that I 'had him' and he had really liked me since that day at the beach (!) but he thought I was not interested. And so nothing ever happened. JUST GO FOR IT!!! Seriously even if he is not interested (which he will be) you will only be embarrassed for a few days and he will be soooo flattered. It's better to know.

Arrrghhhhhh I CAN'T. I could not physically possibly tell him how I feel or even allude to it. I keep going over it in my head and I just imagine him going "Oh God....look, I'm really flattered but....I'm not into you that way. My life's a bit busy, blah blah...". I just could not cope with hearing that!! And he is SUCH a nice guy, I know he would feel mega uncomfortable at making me uncomfortable and the whole thing would just be bad and horrible.

How quickly things turn around.

Yesterday I had a cute boy emailing me all day... and he's a Pommy too (ooh hot accent!) and then he text messaged me last night! Oh and just emailed me now too. It feels great and he's funny too!

Also a friend made a 'referral' to me and this other guy has been messaging me via Facebook all morning so I have another date set up with him for next Sunday. Girls this feels great and I have totally recovered from that loser's rejection... join me in the dating game and feel your confidence soar! (Even if it is brought back down to earth rather frequently by stupid men and their rejections!)

How quickly things turn around.

Yesterday I had a cute boy emailing me all day... and he's a Pommy too (ooh hot accent!) and then he text messaged me last night! Oh and just emailed me now too. It feels great and he's funny too!

Also a friend made a 'referral' to me and this other guy has been messaging me via Facebook all morning so I have another date set up with him for next Sunday. Girls this feels great and I have totally recovered from that loser's rejection... join me in the dating game and feel your confidence soar! (Even if it is brought back down to earth rather frequently by stupid men and their rejections!)

OMG Celeste, that is awesome! Congratulations girl, you are on fire!

Wooott!!! :clapping: Thats awesome celeste!!! congrats!! Nothing boosts u over a pooy boy than another boy who hopefully isnt pooy :whipcrack::hugs::waving:

Celeste, that really is so wonderful to hear - you must be glowing and flying high in the clouds!

Hi girls! How did I miss these responses?! You won't believe it - Saturday night at the pub in Torquay, a MAN actually APPROACHED ME in the flesh, TOLD ME I WAS CUTE and asked for my number!!!!!!!!! This clearly hasn't happened for a long time. Anyway, he has already called and messaged, and it's all a bit impractical geographically etc BUT the point is it was very flattering. More flattering than someone who has seen my best photo on the internet! Hahaha.

Anyway I am meeting English Boy tonight. Yaaaayyyy!

Oh Celeste good work!

It's so nice to have a complete random guy come up to you! Good on you!!! :clapping:

Looking forward to an update after the english boy date too please!

That's awesome Celeste!! Being hit on (nicely, not in a gross way) is a lot of fun. He must have been okay for you to have given him your number!!

Yeah he was nice and he was cute too, and I had a bit of a crappy night (loooong story) so it was nice to get the attention. And 'organically' (hahaha my new word when I am being a smart-ass as it is such a cult-y word these days) rather than artificially on the internet too.

Yeah he was nice and he was cute too, and I had a bit of a crappy night (loooong story) so it was nice to get the attention. And 'organically' (hahaha my new word when I am being a smart-ass as it is such a cult-y word these days) rather than artificially on the internet too.

Yeah I totally know what you mean, it seems so much more sparkly and magical to meet someone organically!

ha ha!

my little bro was doing the internet dating thing for a while and then he met what he calls a 'real' girl... not from the net! good to see the boys even have names for it too! :chuckle:

wow, I just caught up. dates galore! Nattie what's the deal in your world at the moment? I want to hear about this date tonight too celeste. It's very cool to have someone affirm that you are hot in the flesh- cute little confidence boost for sure!

I have been hibernating a bit... not real world anything much for me.. cups of tea and pondering my potential romance... oh lord... breathe says this ex-strumpet!

Date was last night... and have another one (with a different, or 'real' according to Nat, guy on Friday. Although he was a referral, so I still don't actually know him)

It's all too much!

tell me about it- all too much- I can't follow..

so the date was cool then and the real dude- he's not the one from miles away is he?

Blah.... I need to be reading everyday to get my facts straight!

not much news on my front Allison... the boy I had those dates with appears to be ignoring me.. but I have been good and haven't made contact with him, might be a diff story if I were REALLY into him, but I'm not.

Off on holidays in like 8 days or so, so am holding out for that and all the foreign boys! Umar! :chuckle::chuckle:

not much news on my front Allison... the boy I had those dates with appears to be ignoring me.. but I have been good and haven't made contact with him, might be a diff story if I were REALLY into him, but I'm not.

Off on holidays in like 8 days or so, so am holding out for that and all the foreign boys! Umar! :chuckle::chuckle:

i can't believe u r going in a week nattie - that has come up so quickly :rollthoseeyes:

that's great for the soul! Yay a holiday!! I spose who's worrying about other stuff when you have that to look forward to!!

:glee:

wow, I just caught up. dates galore!!

I was thinking that before - there is some magic weaving itself around the Adorables at the moment. Chemistry, allure and shebang everywhere!

I was thinking that before - there is some magic weaving itself around the Adorables at the moment. Chemistry, allure and shebang everywhere!

ha ha! true!

It must be doing us all a bit of good having a place to voice :typing: our thoughts and get honest unbiased opinions back, I know it's helped me! SO thanks fellow adorables :hugs:

And yes, I'm SO excited about my holiday, it's nice to have something to look forward to and I'm v glad I"m single... don't plan on being too much of a minx but if I flirt, I'm flirting guilt free! :whistle:

I was thinking that before - there is some magic weaving itself around the Adorables at the moment. Chemistry, allure and shebang everywhere!

True True!! Kinda makes me miss the dating game!! Alas!!:whistle:

True True!! Kinda makes me miss the dating game!! Alas!!:whistle:

OMG I so did not hear you freaking say that. DO YOU KNOW WHAT KIND OF STRESS I AM UNDER?!! Do not wish that upon yourself!

my romance is going beautifully... just not met him yet. (bless myspace!) three weeks I think.. but he is being so sweet : ) (blush)

Is he in Melb, Lady A?

nope, he's not right now (three hours out of brisbane living is almost isolation in a place with a recording studio). Not met him in person yet but three dear friends know him. A few weeks and he'll be here. Been two months now of phone and email and sms... :hearts:

what's your news??? Where are all you (ex) strumpets????

Weeellllll... I got jiggy with it on the weekend with a guy who I have sort of had a very casual thing with for 2 1/2 years. So I was a strumpet but at least not with anyone new. We had the BEST morning, god it was fun. And this boy had just got back from 6 weeks in Europe and murmered that he wished he had have called me the minute he got off the plane - rather than 24 hours later. EEEE!!!!! He is sooo hot and we have soooo much fun and he makes me feel like the sexiest minx that ever lived... but he suffers the terrible Peter Pan syndrome. He is 28 but feels like he is way too young to commit to anyone or settle down. It's amazing! His name is Petar too, so I always call him Petar Pan... he loves it hehehe.

Tonight I have an old friend, who I haven't seen in years, coming to Melbourne (from Geelong, an hour away) to see me. He is back from a year in London. We talked on the phone the other night for an hour and a half? Not sure where this could go but I am excited. We always used to flirt heaps. Keep your fingers frossed girls!

Oh and also, I haven't met the referral yet. I am really not keen though. Trying to avoid it...

Be a good girl you little stumpet!! cross those legs like a dainty lady! :whipcrack:

:chuckle:

But Allison a girl has NEEDS and SURELY it is ok to recycle? It's not like I am sleeping with someone new!!

You are a very creative strumpet! :chuckle: recycling stops the new from coming into ones life. If you wanna sort through the garbage then by all means but a gal desevers a spangly new man... getting rid of garbage and patiently trying on (no literally you naughty girl) new items means a girl end up with only the best! (and then she can try him on literally) :whipcrack:

I agree with parts of that. But I think that by being sexually satisfied (at least sometimes) I feel more attractive and it does wonders for my self esteem - which in turn attracts new people. Also, I know what I have with Petar, and I keep my eyes open to new people. Look at all of the dating I have been doing! And seriously - every woman needs to experience a Petar at least once in her life. I have never EVER been with a man (not even my one and only love) who makes me feel so spectacular. He looks at me with the most desirous eyes, comments on how hot I am and just enjoys me... which makes me feel so much sexier for days, if not weeks, afterwards!

You are a very creative strumpet! :chuckle: recycling stops the new from coming into ones life. If you wanna sort through the garbage then by all means but a gal desevers a spangly new man... getting rid of garbage and patiently trying on (no literally you naughty girl) new items means a girl end up with only the best! (and then she can try him on literally) :whipcrack:

Oh I don't necessarily agree with that. I think because you are happy and feeling loved up and super sexy... then you are going to exude that to everyone you meet. As long as you are happy keeping it casual and it's not like you are hoping it will turn into something more, then you will still be open to other possibilities... and will be feeling fabu at the same time! :clapping:

My theory anyway... ha ha!:chuckle:

I agree with parts of that. But I think that by being sexually satisfied (at least sometimes) I feel more attractive and it does wonders for my self esteem - which in turn attracts new people. Also, I know what I have with Petar, and I keep my eyes open to new people. Look at all of the dating I have been doing! And seriously - every woman needs to experience a Petar at least once in her life. I have never EVER been with a man (not even my one and only love) who makes me feel so spectacular. He looks at me with the most desirous eyes, comments on how hot I am and just enjoys me... which makes me feel so much sexier for days, if not weeks, afterwards!

Ok just read this - basically what I just agreed too! :chuckle:

Oh I don't necessarily agree with that. I think because you are happy and feeling loved up and super sexy... then you are going to exude that to everyone you meet. As long as you are happy keeping it casual and it's not like you are hoping it will turn into something more, then you will still be open to other possibilities... and will be feeling fabu at the same time! :clapping:

My theory anyway... ha ha!:chuckle:

Yeah I completely agree. I think it's ok to jump in the sack if you're not expecting or wanting more. It's when you DO want more that it might not be such a great idea. And yeah, when you're getting lots of good lovin', you do turn into a more confident, sexy minx! And therefore become more attractive!

Baby did a bad bad thing. I think sex has frizzled my brain because I slept with someone else last night!!!! Allison PLEASE don't yell. I am so tired!!

no comment :whipcrack:

:redcheeks: but also :penguin::penguin::penguin:

haha, you shouldn't be :redcheeks:, I say good for you for getting what you need! :clapping:

Thanks... I feel great, until I have to own up here! Which is the funny thing... I thought about not mentioning it and keeping it a 'secret' but I couldn't do it! That is SO sad hahaha

It's weird isn't it? I always feeling compelled to tell the Adorables everything! Even things I wouldn't tell my best friend!

AHA! He's already messaged me. To say thanks for letting him sleep in and that last night was great. I left him in my bed when I went to work. And I rushed in and said 'I shouldn't be here, there is a hot man in my bed!!!' Too funny. Bliss

It's weird isn't it? I always feeling compelled to tell the Adorables everything! Even things I wouldn't tell my best friend!

Me too VeeE. Especially about my crush - I have said SO much more here than I would ever say to anyone in real life.

AHA! He's already messaged me. To say thanks for letting him sleep in and that last night was great. I left him in my bed when I went to work. And I rushed in and said 'I shouldn't be here, there is a hot man in my bed!!!' Too funny. Bliss

Celeste - details puh-loise! You can't leave us hanging like this.

Weeeellll...

He came over last night and we had dinner then watched Nacho Libre (although we talked through the whole thing and didn't know WHAT was going on!! Then we kept talking, he showed me some photos from running with the bulls in Spain etc (they were on his iPod), then we jumped into bed, kept talking, then we were somehow like entwined and it was sort of weird that we were so close bt hadn't kissed yet... then we started kissing and it all progressed from there! He was just fantastic, and was running his hands all over my body and it was amazing! I was initially a little self conscious, as he has always been with hot skinny chicks, but the way he touched me made me lose those inhibitions very quickly. Ahhh... lust. Was so lovely. And he had at least one hand on me for the whole night. I woke up and he was still curled up to me. Awwww..!!

Weeeellll...

He came over last night and we had dinner then watched Nacho Libre (although we talked through the whole thing and didn't know WHAT was going on!! Then we kept talking, he showed me some photos from running with the bulls in Spain etc (they were on his iPod), then we jumped into bed, kept talking, then we were somehow like entwined and it was sort of weird that we were so close bt hadn't kissed yet... then we started kissing and it all progressed from there! He was just fantastic, and was running his hands all over my body and it was amazing! I was initially a little self conscious, as he has always been with hot skinny chicks, but the way he touched me made me lose those inhibitions very quickly. Ahhh... lust. Was so lovely. And he had at least one hand on me for the whole night. I woke up and he was still curled up to me. Awwww..!!

LOL I meant details more like who IS he?!

Also.......(I'm just curious here) when you hop into bed and keep talking, do you pretty much have an unspoken agreement that it's gonna happen?? :chuckle: I just can't imagine getting into bed with someone with the objective of only "talking" lol!!

BTW I'm not judging, you're totally my hero!

LOL I meant details more like who IS he?!

Also.......(I'm just curious here) when you hop into bed and keep talking, do you pretty much have an unspoken agreement that it's gonna happen?? :chuckle: I just can't imagine getting into bed with someone with the objective of only "talking" lol!!

BTW I'm not judging, you're totally my hero!

Hahaha OH RIGHT, boring details!!!

I was friends with him and his group of friends years ago in Geelong... like, from when we were 15 til 19 or so I guess, then we all sort of lost touch. He is 25, just got back from a year living in London, and is now looking for a law firm to do his articles. We got back in contact via myspace when he was living in the UK, and he got back 3 weeks ago. He is living in Geelong so I said he was welcome to stay.

Honestly - I have slept in a bed with heaps of guy friends with no intention of anything happening - and usually it doesn't! With G there were lots of sparks and we're really familiar with each other. Despite not having seen each other in years. Weird but true. So yeah I have no problem sleeping with friends and just sleeping. But if there is the attraction there and it is mutual... well... hehehe...! :rollthoseeyes:

Baby did a bad bad thing. I think sex has frizzled my brain because I slept with someone else last night!!!! Allison PLEASE don't yell. I am so tired!!

Miss Celeste, never feel bad for a night (or several) of passion, lustfulness and having your body worshiped and pleasured by someone else. Never!

Thanks Sapphy.

I cannot stop thinking about this boy... I think it is official. I have a Crush. (Nooooo!!!!!) Ozzy look out - I think I will be in misery beside you now!

Thanks Sapphy.

I cannot stop thinking about this boy... I think it is official. I have a Crush. (Nooooo!!!!!) Ozzy look out - I think I will be in misery beside you now!

Welcome to the miserable club my friend!!!! :hugs: You can always feel free to PM me with any tiny detail any time you like!

Welllll... I got a message from my crush last night, and he's coming up again on Thursday night for another sleepover!! I am so excited. Bring on Thursday! (At least I have plenty of prep time!!!)

Miss Celeste, never feel bad for a night (or several) of passion, lustfulness and having your body worshiped and pleasured by someone else. Never!

No totally agree. Will give you something to think about when your in those boring meetings at work :whistle:

No totally agree. Will give you something to think about when your in those boring meetings at work :whistle:

Now THIS is true - I do this allll the time. And then wonder if people have noticed my odd grin or little involuntary shudder!!! Hahaha

Ooooooo how exciting Celeste!!! You really like this guy hey?

Thanks Oz. Yeah I think so - at the very very least, I am really attracted to him. Hehehe. So if that's all it is - who cares - it's all good fun! But I can't wait til Thursday!!

How's things with your boy? Trivia tonight?

Thanks Oz. Yeah I think so - at the very very least, I am really attracted to him. Hehehe. So if that's all it is - who cares - it's all good fun! But I can't wait til Thursday!!

How's things with your boy? Trivia tonight?

Yep (haha I love that everyone remembers this!). Not expecting much, and haven't seen/heard from him since last Tuesday. Meh!

Welllll... I got a message from my crush last night, and he's coming up again on Thursday night for another sleepover!! I am so excited. Bring on Thursday! (At least I have plenty of prep time!!!)

Yay! I love that excited crush/lust feeling. It sounds very scrumptious between the both of you, Celeste. You said you were old friends didn't you? Or did I imagine that, lol!

Yep, we've known each other for 7 or so years, but I was more acquaintances with him and friends with his friends. I wasn't really into him back them - thought he was arrogant. Not anymore obviously! Maybe 'confident' and a dry sense of humour, but not arrogant. Only one more sleep!!!!!

It may be one more sleep, but how many hours, Celeste?? I know you're counting!

I would be if I knew what time he was coming! Probably 7 again... so... maybe 33 hours and approx 17 mins?! That makes it feel like aaaaages away!!!

I would be if I knew what time he was coming! Probably 7 again... so... maybe 33 hours and approx 17 mins?! That makes it feel like aaaaages away!!!

But you'll be sleeping for approx 8 of those hours. So really it's only 25 waking hours away!

Yep, we've known each other for 7 or so years, but I was more acquaintances with him and friends with his friends. I wasn't really into him back them - thought he was arrogant. Not anymore obviously! Maybe 'confident' and a dry sense of humour, but not arrogant. Only one more sleep!!!!!

My fiance and I were very similar - friends through friends and often found ourselves at groups parties, dinners etc. We always had a lovely respect and affection for each other though. He used to flirt furiously with me but I always kept him at arm's length (although looking back on it I was a terrible flirt too - he must have thought I was such a tease when in reality I was just young and not fully aware of my feminine sexual 'powers' lol!

My fiance and I were very similar - friends through friends and often found ourselves at groups parties, dinners etc. We always had a lovely respect and affection for each other though. He used to flirt furiously with me but I always kept him at arm's length (although looking back on it I was a terrible flirt too - he must have thought I was such a tease when in reality I was just young and not fully aware of my feminine sexual 'powers' lol!

Oh Sapphy this gives me hope!!!! :hearts:

My fiance and I were very similar - friends through friends and often found ourselves at groups parties, dinners etc. We always had a lovely respect and affection for each other though. He used to flirt furiously with me but I always kept him at arm's length (although looking back on it I was a terrible flirt too - he must have thought I was such a tease when in reality I was just young and not fully aware of my feminine sexual 'powers' lol!

How long were you guys friends Sapphy?? I know you have mentioned the story somewhere before but I want to hear it again!! :clapping:

There is always hope Celeste! Just be open and honest and relaxed about it - don't let it slip through your fingers unless it has to slip away. I'm very excited for you. xo

Now for you Ozzy, let me see…I met him when I moved into a share house while at uni - he was good friends with my new housemates. He later told me that when he first met me he thought I was quiet/shy but very cute. He said he knew immediately that I was the sort of person he wanted to marry! Anyway, I knew him for about 2-3 years then one night while out with friends with drinks I decided it wouldn't be so bad to kiss him after all - what did I have to lose? Then one thing led to another and I took him home with me, the little minx that I was, lol! I think he was a bit freaked out the next morning because he was very vague and his last words were 'see you around like a fruitloop' which I took to be the ultimate in non-commital but then I got a phone call almost two weeks later and he asked me out and from then on we were joined at the hip. But then he had to move interstate for work and we did the long distance thing for far too long - it drove both of us crazy, but him especially, and we broke up after almost 3 years. I was extremely hurt because I knew he loved me and I just thought he was being weak/cowardly but really he needed to deal with these issues alone. Eventually I decided not to pine over him any longer (no more panic attacks in the night and eating nothing but toast!) and the moment I decided that I met someone else. We dated for 11 or so months and it was lovely but I knew in my heart that it wasn't right the way it was with my now-fiance. Plus, old beau still loved me and we were still in touch. Anyway, new love and I broke up, then I went on a kissing spree with other boys then now-fiance came back to visit and I was so freaked out by his presence beside me. It was like he almost knocked me over with the sheer intensity of his feelings for me but also because I knew I still had feelings for him. Then I kissed him and my knees literally shook and I pushed him out of the house in shock but then I phoned him back later and now we are engaged!

Oops, sorry Ozzy. This story is way too long. Sorry to bore you with the 'me, me, me'! :redcheeks:

No way not boring at all - eee!! A true romantic love story! I love it xxx

Oh my God that is SO romantic!!!! Not boring at all, I love hearing that stuff! How painful for you to have to go through his moving away and do all the long-distance stuff only to break up...even though you knew it had to be done....I'm so happy for you that it all worked out in the end!! :hugs:

:hugs: Oh thank you girls. Life sure is an adventure, isn't it?

Three months have past now and this ex-strumpet has been living life on the quiet side. The suitor in question arrived after three months of correspondence between two cities and right now things are just loverly.

Ours has been a mad story of two people unexpectedly connecting through friends on the net and in an off-beat way kind of ‘dated’ for three months and it’s just brilliant to meet and have everything feel even better in person. We are both mad hatters and I a regular pairing just wouldn’t have fitted our style. :penguin:

So far so good… it’s early days.. and we’ll see….

so there’s my update (blush)
:glee:

Oh Allison that sounds sooo good!!!! Nice work!!!

Three months have past now and this ex-strumpet has been living life on the quiet side. The suitor in question arrived after three months of correspondence between two cities and right now things are just loverly.

Ours has been a mad story of two people unexpectedly connecting through friends on the net and in an off-beat way kind of ‘dated’ for three months and it’s just brilliant to meet and have everything feel even better in person. We are both mad hatters and I a regular pairing just wouldn’t have fitted our style. :penguin:

So far so good… it’s early days.. and we’ll see….

so there’s my update (blush)
:glee:

O Allision that soo wonderful!! :penguin::hugs::waving: Im soo happy that things have been working out for you!! eeeeeekkk!! So has he moved to Melb?? Is this it?? the one do you think?? :penguin::penguin::penguin:

He's not moved here yet. He's here for two and a half weeks then off to tassie to see family then to gold coast to help his brother with some things for a few months maybe?? Who knows.... He plans on being between melbourne and the coast for a while so I will just have to see how it goes.

all I know is it feels different and very cool so I am going with it and neither of us ever wanted to get into anything unless we felt it was for the long term so let's hope that turns out to be the case.

no serious discussions but none really needed- we talked about values and life and all all that for the past few months so I am just enjoying the outcome :bunny:

xxx

Soooo........Allison......have you followed your own advice regarding, errrm, how shall we say.........the rules?

Sounds gorgeous, Lady A.a Very happy for you and your happy heart!

Oh allison that's great news!!! :kissing::clapping:

oh oz! you had to ask :chuckle: I spoke of the rules as a guide and I followed ettequite generally and I have been quite the lady. I do believe though, when there is commitment that a set time frame need not be put into place.

there is commitment and it's been discussed... so read between the lines :whistle:

oh oz! you had to ask :chuckle: I spoke of the rules as a guide and I followed ettequite generally and I have been quite the lady. I do believe though, when there is commitment that a set time frame need not be put into place.

there is commitment and it's been discussed... so read between the lines :whistle:

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