I am almost living the' Not Tonight Mister Right' methodology only problem is I'm doing it without the dates. Being that they are the core part of the dogma I may surmise that my last few weeks have not been so successful.

It seems that I am a dating snob. I won't accept dates and have a tendency to deal with the whole land of dating ostrich style- head in sand with an occasional peek at who may be staring at my butt in the air.

So after following half of the advice in this gem of a book I am now trying very hard to play hard to get, problem is I may be playing a bit too hard because I don't want to date anyone I am not drooling over first.

Ms Taylor's advice in the book is to accept lots of dates and keep a rotation of dates from potential suitors on the go. Well, at this point all I have managed is to avoid the suitors.

I do however have a crush on someone. He lives in another state. A myspace collision, a friend of a friend who wrote me and now I am trying to apply these 'Not tonight' rules to this person who lives in another part of the country whilst doing my best to get my head around accepting other dates to bide by the rule book!

I am naughty and need smacks from the adorables to keep me on the straight and narrow. This lady needs to learn to practice what she preaches. For now I am resisting sending another email to my crush and promise I will go on a date soon so I have more to divulge to your gossip addicted adorable minds.

Allison you HAVE to get on the dating band wagon. It is SO MUCH FUN!!! I've been on 4 dates in 2 weeks and have another 2 dates planned this week. I guess the good thing about RSVP is that you can search for (apparently) good looking guys and reject the ugly ones without being mean. Sometimes the photos are far more attractive than the people behind them but only once in my 4 dates have I been overly disappointed. I have had a great, a good, an average and a crap date - that's an ok ratio in my opinion!!!

Come on Allison you will have an extra zing in your step when you actually start practising what you preach! You will be amazed by what a bit of attention will do to you!!!

Oh I am such a picky little priss when it comes to some of the online guys! I have a unique taste in men and I do like them on the creative side.... and tall and thin and dreamily arty...

*snaps back to the world*

I promise, I will do better this week- I will try to get beyond my comfort zone. It's part of the rules! :whipcrack:

HAHAHAHA - I think you would LOVE my cousin. He is HOT. Tall, skinny, (he calls himself whippet thin), he's an urban planner but looks like a rock star. Loves local music stuff.....

I am picky too but I think I look for the opposite to you!!!!! And I place FAR too much emphasis on looks. My bad...

How can you meet my cousin?! Hehehe

does he have a mystalk... oh I mean myspace

:whistle:

Yeah he does but there is no photo, he has a graphic image thing. ACTUALLY I have a photo of him on my myspace in my images - you're my friend so you will be able to access it - it's on page 2, 'Nick and me'. It's about a year old but sort of shows him...

well this is getting interesting ...........

sorry couldn't help myself, I checked out your page celeste ....... :whistle::whistle:

he's a bit of a spunk Allison!! :spin:

sorry couldn't help myself, I checked out your page celeste ....... :whistle::whistle:

he's a bit of a spunk Allison!! :spin:

HAHAHA he would DIE if he knew I was pimping him out on the internet!!!

:chuckle: its not pimping out..... its... 'making referrals' hehe

Indeed it is!! I'm just having fun sitting back and watchin it all go by....:chuckle::glee:

I guess you just have to ask yourself Allison...What do I truly have to loose?? I have scared of going online and waded through soooo many freaks and morons before finding my future husband. He needed some moulding and shaping as did I and now things are perfect.

You might have a cute tooshy dear Allison but you cant flash a sexy smile to a handsome new suitor out ur A S S!:whipcrack:

Heads up grilfriend!! :hugs::waving:

Indeed it is!! I'm just having fun sitting back and watchin it all go by....:chuckle::glee:

I guess you just have to ask yourself Allison...What do I truly have to loose?? I have scared of going online and waded through soooo many freaks and morons before finding my future husband. He needed some moulding and shaping as did I and now things are perfect.

You might have a cute tooshy dear Allison but you cant flash a sexy smile to a handsome new suitor out ur A S S!:whipcrack:

Heads up grilfriend!! :hugs::waving:

:chuckle::chuckle: TBA your posts are always very lively and entertaining!

:chuckle: its not pimping out..... its... 'making referrals' hehe

LOVE IT!!!

ok, so he is kind of maybe cute... not sure from one picture... Maybe he wouldn't be so unhappy if he knew it was a sultry brunette you were pimping him too. *giggle* No one would know though with my head in the sand!

ok, so he is kind of maybe cute... not sure from one picture... Maybe he wouldn't be so unhappy if he knew it was a sultry brunette you were pimping him too. *giggle* No one would know though with my head in the sand!

He is VERY cute. Honestly, every one of my friends who have met him since we were 14 developed a mad crush on him. He has a lovely personality too so he is just adoreable. It is not the best photo but it gives a general idea

you guys are classic! I would much prefer the 'referral' than the blind online date though.

I didn't realise that writing a blog was going to get me 'referrals', but I did promise the adorables that this week I would keep an open mind!

:kissing:

You can't lose out! And if it doesn't work out he is a muso after all, you might get on great as friends!

Nah he's not a muso. He just LIKES music. And has a misguided fantasy of becoming a rockstar... anyway I will email him and get his thoughts on this. I haven't even thought about the fact that we require his consent until now. What do I say? There's this girl that I don't even know but I feel like I know her cos we talk on the internet.... LOSER!!!!!!!!

:chuckle: sorry my bad - interpreted your earlier message wrong...

it's pretty funny! But probably not to be taken seriously.

However I think we may socialise in similar circles- I recognise a couple of his myspace friends as being friends of friends... tis a small world indeed!

Allison just do it!! :typing:

I wouldn't normally go for the guy that I've had the recent dates with (refer episode 2)... but it's all good so far! And I'm having fun which is the main thing! :glee:

I think of it in that I have nothing to lose (as long as I'm being safe about meeting complete straners etc) and that the worst that can happen is that you never see each other again, or you make a new mate (who may or may not have more cute friends!) or you find someone you actually like and wham bam thank you man your found the one with the zsa zsa zsu!!! :clapping:

Quick update for me - I'm supposed to be meeting up with the crush for dinner and a movie tonight, but he's letting me organise it (it's my turn)... and It's all becoming too hard basket while I'm at work.. so I've said a movie and a place and a time and told him that's the best I can come up with! ha ha! so we'll see how keen he is to fit in with me! :chuckle:

well it looks like with celesefay around I will be prodded into line! Keep me posted on your date!

well it looks like with celesefay around I will be prodded into line! Keep me posted on your date!

Dammmmn straight! And yes Nattieb look forward to hearing more! Ooh aaah!!!

I fear your pain Lady Allison....it's all very well and good in theory, but dating is quite an absurd thing to go through if you think about it!!

Actually, I read an article, I think it was in the Weekend Australian mag a couple of weeks ago, and it said that Aussies really aren't into dating and we really have no dating culture. It suggested that we are much more comfortable with the idea of a pash on the dancefloor of a pub than with going out to dinner with a complete stranger. Maybe this whole thing requires a huge step out of our comfort zone.

Well I certainly think it's about time, as women, to put our foot down. This dance floor pashing and 'how about coming home with me love?' It not cutting it with me!

If someone is keen they will indeed make an effort and I will indeed ensure that I still to my rules on this one! A guy needs to feel he worked to earn you.

Well I certainly think it's about time, as women, to put our foot down. This dance floor pashing and 'how about coming home with me love?' It not cutting it with me!

If someone is keen they will indeed make an effort and I will indeed ensure that I still to my rules on this one! A guy needs to feel he worked to earn you.

I know, but men are LAZY!! Herein lies the problem.....

I know, but men are LAZY!! Herein lies the problem.....

Yup I agree. Also I love the thrill of the chase and hate waiting around. It should be an even mix.

they are not lazy when they really have to impress you. Men like to solve problems not talk about them. Problem: this girl is not an easy score. Solution: to take action!!

He will feel like he earnt his keep!

Yup I agree. Also I love the thrill of the chase and hate waiting around. It should be an even mix.

even maybe, but he needs to feel like he's doing some chasing and by right we need to feel a bit chased! :clapping:

Well this thread is very appropriate for me at the moment. I have had a horrifically bad crush for about six weeks now, and tonight I got very cranky at myself for being so hung up on this guy when he is yet to ask me out or really show any interest at all. I think I should take the "He's Just Not That Into You" advice and look elsewhere if he can't be bothered asking me out.

But here's my thing: We have a longstanding group thing, he's good mates with my friends and I really want to keep him as a friend too. So how do I turn my "crush" feelings off?

Gah - that is so frustrating ozkat. Maybe he just needs a bit of a push - blokes are blokes, after all. Have you point blank asked him out on a proper date? Tell me to bugger off if I'm telling you how to suck eggs (where on earth did that saying come from, by the way?? Hello nanna!).

If not and in terms of turning the feelings off, this is such boring advice but - unfortunately we just ain't built that way. I know I can't do it and not sure I've found anyone who can. It's going to suck for a while but you just keep reminding yourself that you're a bloody gorgeous, funny, intelligent woman who doesn't have to settle for a silly boy who can't communicate. Like that semi-famous line in The Castle , he's headed straight to the pool room (or friend zone) - where he can be admired but without too much interaction!

PS boys are dumb, throw rocks at them
PPS :hugs:

Gah - that is so frustrating ozkat. Maybe he just needs a bit of a push - blokes are blokes, after all. Have you point blank asked him out on a proper date? Tell me to bugger off if I'm telling you how to suck eggs (where on earth did that saying come from, by the way?? Hello nanna!).

If not and in terms of turning the feelings off, this is such boring advice but - unfortunately we just ain't built that way. I know I can't do it and not sure I've found anyone who can. It's going to suck for a while but you just keep reminding yourself that you're a bloody gorgeous, funny, intelligent woman who doesn't have to settle for a silly boy who can't communicate. Like that semi-famous line in The Castle , he's headed straight to the pool room (or friend zone) - where he can be admired but without too much interaction!

PS boys are dumb, throw rocks at them
PPS :hugs:

I totally love everything you just wrote! I can't top that! But I sure can try to equal it.

I haven't asked him out on a date, because I'm not sure how he feels about me and if he rejected me I'd have to move to Siberia, and moving is expensive, I'd have to organise someone to feed my dog, and I don't deal with cold too well. I know it seems wimpy, but I am just not confident enough to risk the humiliation! I also really want to keep him as a friend (as I mentioned) and I don't want it to get weird.

You're right about it sucking too. It does suck. Not only eggs but also watermelons and pickled herrings. But perhaps I should mentally send him to the friend zone, and my hormones will surely get the hint sooner or later. Oh, and I so want one of those "Stupid Factory: Where Boys Are Made" shirts!

so nattieb how was the date????

ozkat, that really sucks. I understand your situation and it's a tough nut to crack! Guys may be a tad dim at times but they are not completely stupid. If they want something they will usually try to touch it. You could try the coy flirt approach with subtlety but if he's not coming to the party it's really your call: you can confront him and confess all or you can find a new crush you will love every minute of flirting with you and you will actually ENJOY it too!

It is a tough one and I don't envy you but I say if he ain't making you feel more special among the group of friends then crush the crush with another crush and get online or you could just ask celestefay to set you up with one of her reletives :chuckle:

:glee:

Ozkat - I feel your pain! My last crush didn't work out and it took me forever to move on... but a few pash and dashes on the dancefloor (I KNOW!) helped... :whistle:

What's that saying - you always want what you can't have? Maybe start having a few dates with other guys, going back to the be open and positive to anything (Merrick and Rosso actually talked about this on the radio yesterday!).. and then you won't be focusing all your energy on the crush and he might think 'damn i want in on a piece of that, look at how many guys want to be with her' and next thing you know if he really is keen he asks you out.. if not, well it might make things a little easier to deal with in the interim?

I really don't know cause we've all been there, and none of us acutally get boys (because yes I agree, boys are stupid throw rocks at them) but I do agree that they need to chase after you... this seems to work for me. (so far anyway!) :whipcrack: (felt like that needed a whipcrack!)

On the chasing - I had a fab date last night, dinner and a movie... he even bought me maltesers when I said i didn't want anything to eat after dinner.. they're my fav!!

We had a lovely dinner, the restaurant basically kicked us out as we were sitting there chatting over a bottle of wine well after we'd finished our meals... so then he suggested a movie so we went to that and had a bit of a snuggle in the movies and practiced a bit on that first kiss from the weekend.. much better now! :chuckle: But it was really nice to know that he's going back to work and that's the last thing he'll be thinking of ... sounds soooo corny and I'd die if he read this but you get me right!??

Fabulous!!! that sounds like a great date!

:glee:

nattie - how wonderful :penguin::clapping:

ozcat- just make a bigger hint or be a bit more touchy feely & see what happens

Nattieb the date sounds wonderful! A boy who buys you maltesers un-requested, gotta love that :clapping:

Thanks Guys and yes RBB - He scored major brownie points for that!!! :glee:

Another quick gush... he also reminded me it was out third date... so look who's counting! :whistle:

Hey Nattie B!

Im soo happy for your awesome date!! When is he coming back??

I miss dating but im glad I am marrying my best friend even if he is a caveman at times :fish:

Nattieb that is soooo awesome. I am so happy for you and yet so jealous :chuckle: As for my crush, yes I'm certain you're right that I need to date other boys....now I just have to figure out where to find them...

Celeste will agree with me here Ozkat - RSVP!

Give it a whirl!! It's like window shopping but for men... ha ha!!!!

Celeste will agree with me here Ozkat - RSVP!

Give it a whirl!! It's like window shopping but for men... ha ha!!!!

I AGREE, I AGREE!!!!! I'm going on a(nother) date tonight... eeeee!!!!!

I AGREE, I AGREE!!!!! I'm going on a(nother) date tonight... eeeee!!!!!

Good luck CF! Please report back! :penguin:

I AGREE, I AGREE!!!!! I'm going on a(nother) date tonight... eeeee!!!!!


i don't know anyone that is dating right now so this is lots of fun :glee:
i love hearing about everything that is going on :hugs:

have a ball celeste :clapping:

he he good luck celeste!

you sound like my friends fusspot! all married, in relationships and want ALL my goss! :chuckle:

he he good luck celeste!

you sound like my friends fusspot! all married, in relationships and want ALL my goss! :chuckle:


:chuckle::whistle::redcheeks: sad isn't it , this is what happens when u find someone :clapping:

nah not sad... it's good to get other people's opinions! :typing:

Have fun girlaroonies. I'm enjoying reading your escapades - it seems so long ago for me.

Celeste will agree with me here Ozkat - RSVP!

Give it a whirl!! It's like window shopping but for men... ha ha!!!!

Oh....I don't know.......

Ozkat - Just do it! :chuckle:


Meanwhile, little miss hussy here, is 'sick' today at home cause she had another date with the boy last night and stayed the night! Ooooopssss!! Umar!!! How did that happen!? :whistle::redcheeks:

You....STRUMPET!!! :chuckle:

Is it totally crass of me to ask...did you have fun??

GO NATTIE!!! I am soooo jealous... mine got cancelled. I've been on 4 dates and not even a pash!! Still waiting for one who is worth it and I thought Mr Last Night would have been a good contender but it fell through! Hopefully we can catch up over the weekend...

And yes Nattie - was he what you expected or hoped for?!!!

thanks girls :hugs:.. i feel a little bit naughty, but the drought has broken! :glee::worship:

it was a great night... he made me feel small cause he's quite muscley and i NEVER feel small so that was really nice! we left it as catch you later type of thing, i'm not hanging all my hopes on him, plus he goes back to work tonight and then i won't see him for another couple of weeks and then i go on holidays... so i'm trying my bestest to play it coooooooooolllllllll...... hard but i think i can manage it! :redcheeks:

GO NATTIE!!! I am soooo jealous... mine got cancelled. I've been on 4 dates and not even a pash!! Still waiting for one who is worth it and I thought Mr Last Night would have been a good contender but it fell through! Hopefully we can catch up over the weekend...

it took me quite a few dates before i got a pash and more than one or two dates with the same guy.. it'll happen i'm sure of it!:clapping:

Hope so!

And so glad you had a nice time - hope he calls and follows up and you can keep on keepin on with this for a long time to come!!!

Meanwhile, little miss hussy here, is 'sick' today at home cause she had another date with the boy last night and stayed the night! Ooooopssss!! Umar!!! How did that happen!? :whistle::redcheeks:

Ohhhhhhh Myyyyyyy Goooodddddddddd!!! Nattieb you absolute minx! Well done, girl!

I feel like such a voyeur! :whistle:

ha ha!

I feel sorta strange spilling this all over the net, but oh well!

only a couple of my girlfriends know and there's one that will want to know but she's a bit green eyed monster the minute anything happens to me and not her (meanwhile I've endured the last couple of months of HER being the strumpet and now it's my turn for once she doesn't want to listen) so I'm thankful that you gals aren't judgmental! :hugs:

ha ha!

I feel sorta strange spilling this all over the net, but oh well!

only a couple of my girlfriends know and there's one that will want to know but she's a bit green eyed monster the minute anything happens to me and not her (meanwhile I've endured the last couple of months of HER being the strumpet and now it's my turn for once she doesn't want to listen) so I'm thankful that you gals aren't judgmental! :hugs:

Judgmental, no!! All we ask is that any and all goss be spilled IMMEDIATELY!

Judgmental, no!! All we ask is that any and all goss be spilled IMMEDIATELY!

:chuckle: well i think you've pretty much got it all so far!!

Ok girls I am alll excited...

So the guy who cancelled on Wednesday and I are now having coffee tomorrow morning... and he looks hot eeee!!!! SO excited! And THEN I am having dinner with another hottie on SUnday night, he seems realllly sweet. So I am jumping out of my skin. The possibilities! These are the 2 I've held the highest hopes for, and I am trying to quash those hopes so I can't get disappointed when they look nothing like their photos or are total sops... PLLLLEASE keep your fingers crossed for me girls! Eeeeeeee!!!!!!

Ok girls I am alll excited...

So the guy who cancelled on Wednesday and I are now having coffee tomorrow morning... and he looks hot eeee!!!! SO excited! And THEN I am having dinner with another hottie on SUnday night, he seems realllly sweet. So I am jumping out of my skin. The possibilities! These are the 2 I've held the highest hopes for, and I am trying to quash those hopes so I can't get disappointed when they look nothing like their photos or are total sops... PLLLLEASE keep your fingers crossed for me girls! Eeeeeeee!!!!!!

Ohhhh Celeste! That's great news!!!! Fingers and toes are crossed!! :penguin::penguin:

Just remember to expect the unexpected then you won't be upset if they look a little diff in their photos (my guy does) or if you don't quite hit it off on the first day.. I always say the second date is the true indication cause you are no where near as nervous! :glee:

Good luck and report back ASAP!!!! :typing:

Ohhhh Celeste! That's great news!!!! Fingers and toes are crossed!! :penguin::penguin:

Just remember to expect the unexpected then you won't be upset if they look a little diff in their photos (my guy does) or if you don't quite hit it off on the first day.. I always say the second date is the true indication cause you are no where near as nervous! :glee:

Good luck and report back ASAP!!!! :typing:

Thanks hun!! Have fun with your sailors and I will definitely post back. I give up too quickly though and if the first date is crap wouldn't bother going back for a second. I don't get nervous though and have been told I am very easy to get along with so...:hearts:

i hope all u dating girls have a great w/e :kissing::waving:

ha ha thanks fusspot!

celeste - any updates yet? am sure you are still out with the hot date! you go g/f! :glee::worship:

hmmm wondering if celeste is curled up in a bed somewhere with one of her hot dates from the weekend! :clapping:;)

meanwhile... i didn't hear from the boy over the weekend which was a little strange,but he was online chatting briefly last night and proceeded to tell me that he's changed from optus to telstra and he can't get coverage out at the mines..

ozlicious (like the name btw!).. you're from near townsville right? and ideas what the coverage is like out west?? ha ha i'm on a mission to find out if he's playing me or if he's telling the truth! :whipcrack:

Ok update... first of all there was no curling up in bed so bugger that!!

Ok - Date #1. This was with the 32 year old builder. Well, he is actually a construction manager and a DJ too. And he looked a bit old, as in weathered from being outdoors (I was thinking, how can I get him onto Unltaceuticals SPF 30+ moisturiser hahaha!!!). Initially I thought he was not very cute, but the more I talked to him the more attracted to him I was. He is really interesting and does lots of cool things (is part of the music industry and has some cool connections). He is also friends with my favourite footballer!!!!! So I want to see him again and I think he is interested too.

Date #2. I called and left a voicemail message on Sunday morning, asking if we could do coffee in the afternoon rather than dinner. He called back and we spoke for an hour. It was great. He was hungover but friendly and chatty and we talked about everything and anything. He said he met a model last week who was stunning but stupid and it was really off-putting. And he mentioned his ex was a size 16 and he likes a bit extra so I was immediately comfortable that he wouldn't think I am fat (size 14). So he came around and we went for coffee but he was a lot quieter. I said to him that he seemed shy or something and he said he just felt really sick - but he was chatty on the phone? SO after an hour he went home to go back to bed. I was disappointed - he was HOT - and I felt a bit rejected, but have been telling myself that maybe he just did feel sick and I have to stop over analysing! But I can't help it! So I guess I will just have to see what happens next... if he calls or not... he was very cute...

The end result, I would like to see both of them again. BUT I think #1 is more relationship material, and #2 could be more for fun times. I am a bit concerned #1 has no time and I would never see him but again, there I am getting all carried away when we haevn't been on a second date yet! I hate this!

hmmm wondering if celeste is curled up in a bed somewhere with one of her hot dates from the weekend! :clapping:;)

meanwhile... i didn't hear from the boy over the weekend which was a little strange,but he was online chatting briefly last night and proceeded to tell me that he's changed from optus to telstra and he can't get coverage out at the mines..

ozlicious (like the name btw!).. you're from near townsville right? and ideas what the coverage is like out west?? ha ha i'm on a mission to find out if he's playing me or if he's telling the truth! :whipcrack:

I know plenty of people who have guys who work out at the mines, I will totally suss this one out for you!! Which mine is he at? I'm not going to stalk (I have my hands full with that already) but the coverage might vary...

Ok update... first of all there was no curling up in bed so bugger that!!

Ok - Date #1. This was with the 32 year old builder. Well, he is actually a construction manager and a DJ too. And he looked a bit old, as in weathered from being outdoors (I was thinking, how can I get him onto Unltaceuticals SPF 30+ moisturiser hahaha!!!). Initially I thought he was not very cute, but the more I talked to him the more attracted to him I was. He is really interesting and does lots of cool things (is part of the music industry and has some cool connections). He is also friends with my favourite footballer!!!!! So I want to see him again and I think he is interested too.

Date #2. I called and left a voicemail message on Sunday morning, asking if we could do coffee in the afternoon rather than dinner. He called back and we spoke for an hour. It was great. He was hungover but friendly and chatty and we talked about everything and anything. He said he met a model last week who was stunning but stupid and it was really off-putting. And he mentioned his ex was a size 16 and he likes a bit extra so I was immediately comfortable that he wouldn't think I am fat (size 14). So he came around and we went for coffee but he was a lot quieter. I said to him that he seemed shy or something and he said he just felt really sick - but he was chatty on the phone? SO after an hour he went home to go back to bed. I was disappointed - he was HOT - and I felt a bit rejected, but have been telling myself that maybe he just did feel sick and I have to stop over analysing! But I can't help it! So I guess I will just have to see what happens next... if he calls or not... he was very cute...

The end result, I would like to see both of them again. BUT I think #1 is more relationship material, and #2 could be more for fun times. I am a bit concerned #1 has no time and I would never see him but again, there I am getting all carried away when we haevn't been on a second date yet! I hate this!

Wow celestefay.....i totally admire you for doing all this! I don't think I'd be able to cope with the uncertainty though. But they both sound good in their ways. Would you feel comfy calling THEM back?

I know plenty of people who have guys who work out at the mines, I will totally suss this one out for you!! Which mine is he at? I'm not going to stalk (I have my hands full with that already) but the coverage might vary...

I think it's Century Zinc? Is that out west from Townsville? Ha ha you can stalk away! I just thought it was weird that he could get reception on Optus but not Telstra!? I'm being paranoid - I keep telling everyone that he's nice and all but I wouldn't care if that was it.. and I don't, but it's more the fact that i want to KNOW that it's all over redrover and he's not just ignoring me! We had the whole conversation about being grown ups and being able to tell someone if you're interested or not... arrrgh I hate this! :chuckle:

Ok update... first of all there was no curling up in bed so bugger that!!

The end result, I would like to see both of them again. BUT I think #1 is more relationship material, and #2 could be more for fun times. I am a bit concerned #1 has no time and I would never see him but again, there I am getting all carried away when we haevn't been on a second date yet! I hate this!

Wow celeste! I saw work on #1 then! BUT give #2 the benefit of the doubt (here I go telling you to do that when I've got Oz looking into mobile phone coverage for me! ha ha!) and see if he contacts again, you never know... but it all sounds great! How exciting for you!!!:glee:

I think it's Century Zinc? Is that out west from Townsville? Ha ha you can stalk away! I just thought it was weird that he could get reception on Optus but not Telstra!? I'm being paranoid - I keep telling everyone that he's nice and all but I wouldn't care if that was it.. and I don't, but it's more the fact that i want to KNOW that it's all over redrover and he's not just ignoring me! We had the whole conversation about being grown ups and being able to tell someone if you're interested or not... arrrgh I hate this! :chuckle:
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Oh my God, I cannot COUNT the number of times I have had the "let's not play games, let's just be honest with each other, lay it out on the table" blah blah conversation with someone, only for the relationship to later disintegrate into the "will he or won't he call?" , game-playing fiascos we all know! It absolutely drives me bonkers. Men are so unable to just say what they mean, they would rather make up elaborate stories than just admit they don't want to keep seeing you. Nattieb I'm not saying this appies to you at all! Just my little rant about boys and their ways.

Yes Century is up this way, it's a long way from Brisbane to do the fly-in, fly-out thing! I'm surprised he doesn't live up here. Anyhoo, I shall attempt to look into it for you, I have one friend whose boy I know for sure works out there.

Wow celestefay.....i totally admire you for doing all this! I don't think I'd be able to cope with the uncertainty though. But they both sound good in their ways. Would you feel comfy calling THEM back?

Thanks hun. Yeah I have no dramas calling them but I want them to call so I know they are interested!!!! It's all sooooo crazy. The mind boggles. I hate games

Wow celeste! I say work on #1 then! BUT give #2 the benefit of the doubt (here I go telling you to do that when I've got Oz looking into mobile phone coverage for me! ha ha!) and see if he contacts again, you never know... but it all sounds great! How exciting for you!!!:glee:

Do you really think it sounds exciting? It feels monstrous! I hate the waiting game... we are on the friggin internet, call me if you are interested or let me know gently if you are not!!!!!

Do you really think it sounds exciting? It feels monstrous! I hate the waiting game... we are on the friggin internet, call me if you are interested or let me know gently if you are not!!!!!

I know! See my above posts ha ha! :chuckle:

I must say though that this last time I just sent a text a couple days after the date and said right out

'Hi, thanks for a nice day, let me know if you'd be keen to catch up again - I hate the whole dating 'game' and trying to read the signs... '

well it was something like that but it worked cause he replied and said he hated the games too and he was def keen to catch up - ha ha - and NOW i'm waiting to see if he wants to stay in touch after the sleep over!! MEN!! :shakehead:

I feel your pain, celestefay and nattieb! I really do! Men are so frickin difficult to understand, and it would be tolerable except that we women seem to go into "ohmigod does he like me?" mode after only one or two dates, and we can think about nothing else! Torture!

I know! See my above posts ha ha! :chuckle:

I must say though that this last time I just sent a text a couple days after the date and said right out

'Hi, thanks for a nice day, let me know if you'd be keen to catch up again - I hate the whole dating 'game' and trying to read the signs... '

well it was something like that but it worked cause he replied and said he hated the games too and he was def keen to catch up - ha ha - and NOW i'm waiting to see if he wants to stay in touch after the sleep over!! MEN!! :shakehead:

Gah! They are impossible! Well I messaged #1 on Saturday night cos I'd been thinking about him all day and wanted to let him know I was keen (but not too keen, you know!!!!) and said: 'Just jumping into bed (very late for me haha) and wanted to say thanks for the coffee today... my shout next time... and I look forward to seeing you. sweet dreams x' or something like that. And I sent the text at 11.30pm because we had made jokes about being nannas, hence the late night part. Ok so what do you think? OH and he had been emailing me with kisses at the end so I didn't think that was too much. Anyway he messaged me on SUNDAY AFTERNOON and said 'hi celeste, thanks for the message. It was very sweet of you' WTF?!! Made me feel like I am 5! JAMES - you are a Man - do you have an opinion?!! Nat? From your experiences? He said he'd call early this week so now I just have to wait and see...

I feel your pain, celestefay and nattieb! I really do! Men are so frickin difficult to understand, and it would be tolerable except that we women seem to go into "ohmigod does he like me?" mode after only one or two dates, and we can think about nothing else! Torture!

Ah this is the problem. We get attached way too quickly. Men don't seem to have that problem. I'm going bloody bananas!!!!

Gah! They are impossible! Well I messaged #1 on Saturday night cos I'd been thinking about him all day and wanted to let him know I was keen (but not too keen, you know!!!!) and said: 'Just jumping into bed (very late for me haha) and wanted to say thanks for the coffee today... my shout next time... and I look forward to seeing you. sweet dreams x' or something like that. And I sent the text at 11.30pm because we had made jokes about being nannas, hence the late night part. Ok so what do you think? OH and he had been emailing me with kisses at the end so I didn't think that was too much. Anyway he messaged me on SUNDAY AFTERNOON and said 'hi celeste, thanks for the message. It was very sweet of you' WTF?!! Made me feel like I am 5! JAMES - you are a Man - do you have an opinion?!! Nat? From your experiences? He said he'd call early this week so now I just have to wait and see...

hmmm ok... don't text again just yet... he knows you're keen and all so generally if they say they'll call they generally do, they're just a bit more laid back about it than us crazy chicks! well i know i'm crazy cause look at me giving you advice when i'm asking for help above! :whistle::chuckle:

also as hard as it is, remember that we read/interpret emails and texts in our own way and not always they way they were intended.. so it might've been a genuine reply to you to say thanks for the msg..

i'd leave it till wed if you can go that long and if you haven't heard send him another short but seet text just saying hi and say just wondering if you are keen to catch up again or not and maybe say something about it being OK if he doesn't want to (to kinda show that you don't care either way - even though you do!)

let me know what you decide to do...

hmmm ok... don't text again just yet... he knows you're keen and all so generally if they say they'll call they generally do, they're just a bit more laid back about it than us crazy chicks! well i know i'm crazy cause look at me giving you advice when i'm asking for help above! :whistle::chuckle:

also as hard as it is, remember that we read/interpret emails and texts in our own way and not always they way they were intended.. so it might've been a genuine reply to you to say thanks for the msg..

i'd leave it till wed if you can go that long and if you haven't heard send him another short but seet text just saying hi and say just wondering if you are keen to catch up again or not and maybe say something about it being OK if he doesn't want to (to kinda show that you don't care either way - even though you do!)

let me know what you decide to do...

Do you know what - that is EXACTLY the advice I would give you or someone else. And you are right. I won't text him, and I am not texting #2 either - he has to make that move. I will sit tight and go to the gym tonight and ride that bike!!!! And forget about it!!!

Do you know what - that is EXACTLY the advice I would give you or someone else. And you are right. I won't text him, and I am not texting #2 either - he has to make that move. I will sit tight and go to the gym tonight and ride that bike!!!! And forget about it!!!

good idea!!!! that way if he does contact you think of how great you'll feel from exercising and if not... think of how good you'll feel and look to other potentials!! :glee:

Thanks for listening to all of my crap today... And I will keep you posted.

xxxxxx

Gah! They are impossible! Well I messaged #1 on Saturday night cos I'd been thinking about him all day and wanted to let him know I was keen (but not too keen, you know!!!!) and said: 'Just jumping into bed (very late for me haha) and wanted to say thanks for the coffee today... my shout next time... and I look forward to seeing you. sweet dreams x' or something like that. And I sent the text at 11.30pm because we had made jokes about being nannas, hence the late night part. Ok so what do you think? OH and he had been emailing me with kisses at the end so I didn't think that was too much. Anyway he messaged me on SUNDAY AFTERNOON and said 'hi celeste, thanks for the message. It was very sweet of you' WTF?!! Made me feel like I am 5! JAMES - you are a Man - do you have an opinion?!! Nat? From your experiences? He said he'd call early this week so now I just have to wait and see...

Oh my God, what a turd!!! Sorry but that is such a turd way to respond to your text, and it was turdy of him to leave it until SUNDAY BLOODY AFTERNOON to reply....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

hey celeste... any updates????

none from me... boy didn't get online when i was online last night.. and i'm staying at a friends house tonight so will have to wait and see if i hear from him later in the week.. i mean he could at least email me !!!! :shakehead:

hey celeste... any updates????

none from me... boy didn't get online when i was online last night.. and i'm staying at a friends house tonight so will have to wait and see if i hear from him later in the week.. i mean he could at least email me !!!! :shakehead:

No. No updates :explode:

HELLLLOOOOO #1 said he wanted to see me again, he said he would call early in the week, I said the only night I could do was Tuesday... and I haven't heard anything yet!!! Bastards. All of them.

OH BUT ON A BRIGHTER NOTE... There is a boy who has been emailing me, he has been overseas (is in Greece at the moment) but gets back to Melbourne this weekend... so I won't see him this weekend, he will be jet lagged and have other people to see, but hopefully next week. And after that - I think I am taking my profile down. I am getting sick of thinking about all of this!!!!

episode 4 now up on a new thread- you gals really need a new episode! :rollthoseeyes: